Because many people these days marry for the wrong reasons. Some marry because they think it's the right age to get married, some marry because they have been pressurized by society's expectations, some marry because they fear loneliness, some marry because they are afraid of being left on the shelf. But how many people marry out of true love? Without the foundation of love, how will a marriage be able to go through thick and thin and survive all obstacles?
There is nothing wrong with marriage, but it's people marrying for the wrong reasons that resulted in divorce. The article below is a great example of how marriage with the foundation of love is like:
San Diego couple married for 75 years die within hours of each other holding hands | Daily Mail Online
^ The couple in this article above are actually childhood sweethearts, they were married for 75 years and they died hours apart holding hands. This is an example of a marriage that is totally based on true love, you can tell that this couple is totally in love with each other. Successful and happy marriage does exist out there, but both couples must be deeply in love with each other in order for the marriage to work out.
Thread: Random Thought Thread
07-01-2015, 01:01 PM #52861
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07-01-2015, 02:59 PM #52862
Hence I take strong issue with the notion of finding "true love", as if the key to a successful marriage is finding "the right person". It has very little to do with finding the right person, and very much to do with being the kind of person who is prepared to commit to marriage.
Don't get me wrong. I do have some very romantic ideals in this sphere, but my perspective differs from most because I believe that love is an active thing through which one expends energy, and not a passive thing where the ideal is to bask in the presence of someone who loves you.An argument is two people sharing their ignorance.
A discussion is two people sharing their understanding, even when they disagree.
07-01-2015, 03:21 PM #52863
07-01-2015, 05:36 PM #52864
Technology is supposed to be so great Zuckerburg is talking about telepathically linked facebook and yet my laptop does not know, despite the fact I have never ever not hit the automatic reset when it does so, that when I swipe the touch pad I never want to resize the screen.
07-01-2015, 06:28 PM #52865
07-01-2015, 09:03 PM #52866
Why do people have so much hair on their heads? Why not everywhere else on their body? Is it left over from past stages of evolution? Is it protective or something? I mean it probably maybe is partially insulating maybe like fur, but is it really effective at all? It covers such a small area... Maybe because it is at the top of the person, it would be more important-protective from the sun or something. I'll probably look it up but yeah, I'm really bored.
07-02-2015, 12:40 AM #52867
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forgive me if I don't writ ein complet esentences and misspellings on the dot.
my c arpal tunnel will not allow me to backspace and delete.
just forget it...
whatever."i shut the door and in the morning
it was open
Olemn slammed his hammer and from the sparks on the metal of his anvil came the spheres of the heavens.
Sayrah blew life into the spheres and they moved. From her wheel she weaved the names of people in to mystery.
07-02-2015, 03:07 AM #52868
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I think I can see where you are coming from. I also believe that it's important for people to be the kind of person who is prepared to commit to marriage. In fact, this is what most people should be doing. Instead of trying to find the right person, they should spend more time improving on themselves and be the right person. And of course expectations is also part of the reason that causes marriage to fail, but at the same time, I can't help but to wonder, why would people have expectations toward their loved ones? If a person has expectations toward another person, this is when it's time to question whether that person truly loves the other person.
Also, why would true love be about finding someone who really loves you as you are? Why would true love be "basking in the presence of someone who loves you?" This sounds more like infatuation than love. When a person is infatuated with another person, they tend to care more about their own feelings than the other person's feelings.
True love doesn't think of oneself, because when a person is truly in love they will care about the other person more than oneself, it's when one constantly put the other person's needs before oneself. True love is when you are able to forgive the other person easily and you are unable to stay mad at the other person for long because your care toward them override your ego. When a person is able to feel this kind of love toward another person, this is when you know this person is truly in love with the other person.
07-02-2015, 05:33 AM #52869
07-02-2015, 07:46 AM #52870