1. Balding (there are rare caveots to this though).
2. Overweight (my threshold is over ~20% bodyfat).
3. Small (note this does not equate to short, just a small build in general).
I really don't like having the standards I do on a physical level, it's frustrating. That's not to say I don't see guys that meet them. I actually see plenty of them. I'd say around 10% of the guys I see I am like "oh yes, yes please" on a given day in town. Granted, the true "holy crap you are exactly my type" is very very rare. I have tried multiple times to ignore them or lower them, and it just doesn't work.
As far as gay guys and balding, from what I noticed a higher percentage compared to the heteresexual population at large tends to be turned off by it, but by no means all of them. I have come across plenty of gay guys who see it as a non-concern, or even a turn on. Just for me I do not. Part of it could be that one thing I rather like and find I am universally drawn to satistically is a short forehead / low hairline. It's likely because I am the opposite of that.
I'm also just sensitive to it in general. I have been worried since high school that I'd go bald. My father went partially bald in his early 30's, and my paternal grandfather went completely bald at 18. Unfortunately, when I had part of my genome sequenced through 23andme two years ago I learned that I have a strong increased statistical odds of going bald. My hairline has receeded very slowly since my mid teens and it's something that is always on my mind in some capacity. I do not let it show, but I am self conscious about it and am very sensitive to my physical appearance. It's also a bigger deal for me because my hair is a major portion that makes me attractive to others. To lose that will absolutely send me down several notches, even more so because of my head shape. While I recognize that am solid above average in attraction, the perfectionism in me beckons it not being good enough, and not being good enough to draw in what I want. I do not let it get to me 95% of the time, and I can ignore that internal poking. Balding though; I know I could not handle that at all. I have also found that unfortunately, I need to feel attractive in order for me to enjoy someone else. That said, because I know being self-conscious is a turn off, I'd never let it known. I never divulge my insecurities with myself in this regard.
Granted, I do agree that you can make it A LOT worse by trying to hold onto it or use bad hairstyles. I also agree that there are some people that wear it well. Some though, can't. I'll be honest I do not see the appeal in patrick stewart at all. I just accept that others see it, even if I don't.
Thread: Random Thought Thread
03-23-2015, 04:56 PM #50451
03-23-2015, 05:31 PM #50452
I definitely have preferences; I'm not gonna lie. I like taller men with broad shoulders. And yes, hair is a definite plus. But if I met a short, bald guy with a slight build, and he had a fantastic personality, I'd probably still find him sexy. It seems like the older I get, the less physical looks matter to me. So maybe yours will change, with more time? It's possible.
Or maybe this will change your mind.
O hai Billy Zane.WOOP WOOP WOOP
03-23-2015, 05:35 PM #50453
I actually have found that physical matters less as I get older. Though it's more what I am attracted to has expanded to include new or different things, which I definitely welcome.
Personality is tricky because the types of personalities that excite me the most usually are a bad match for me. I honestly don't know what would be a good match for me though, I have to "see" it to know it. It's difficult to pull up in a vacuum.
03-23-2015, 05:44 PM #50454
Expanding your tastes is good. I know my preferences have broadened as I've gotten older. When I was a teenager, I hated facial hair of any kind. Now if I see a guy with stubble or a neatly-trimmed beard, I'm like, "Saaayyy..."
And yeah, personality is tricky. Qualities I might find appealing at first in a guy are often the same qualities that end up driving me crazy. And the qualities that initially bore me somehow become the qualities that I appreciate the most. What the hell's that about?WOOP WOOP WOOP
03-23-2015, 05:48 PM #50455
03-23-2015, 05:56 PM #50456
While I'm not immune to physical attractiveness, I know I'm really in love when she's beautiful because I love her, not because I love her because she's beautiful.
03-23-2015, 06:05 PM #50457
03-23-2015, 06:22 PM #50458
03-23-2015, 06:24 PM #50459
03-23-2015, 07:19 PM #50460
"I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I am saying."