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    Asking someone why they are "so quiet" is a bit of a social gaffe. It's nonsensical whichever way you look at it.

    If they're quiet because they're shy, you're just making it worse by making them feel bad about it. If they're quiet because they want to be, you're just making them feel misunderstood.

    That is all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sultan of Beans View Post
    Asking someone why they are "so quiet" is a bit of a social gaffe. It's nonsensical whichever way you look at it.

    If they're quiet because they're shy, you're just making it worse by making them feel bad about it. If they're quiet because they want to be, you're just making them feel misunderstood.

    That is all.
    I like to tell them, "I'm not quiet. I'm introspective."
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    Youtube has several hours long videos with blowdryer or dishwasher sounds - because that can apparently help babies fall asleep.

    Gotta love the internet!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sultan of Beans View Post
    Asking someone why they are "so quiet" is a bit of a social gaffe. It's nonsensical whichever way you look at it.

    If they're quiet because they're shy, you're just making it worse by making them feel bad about it. If they're quiet because they want to be, you're just making them feel misunderstood.

    That is all.
    I have come to believe the appropriate response to that question is "Why are you so loud?"

    Although it's often for naught because loud people in my experience also tend to have a profound lack of self-awareness...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Red Herring View Post
    Youtube has several hours long videos with blowdryer or dishwasher sounds - because that can apparently help babies fall asleep.

    Gotta love the internet!
    White noise in general helps people sleep.

    W/r to babies, I distinctively remember when I was younger that my hearing was extremely sharp, especially compared to what it is now after several decades and a few dozen ear infections. Every single creak, every single bug chirping, every single bird tweet, every single brush of a tree branch, I recall hearing distinctly. Very distracting. White noise fuzzes that all out, making it much easier to sleep.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 93JC View Post
    I have come to believe the appropriate response to that question is "Why are you so loud?"

    Although it's often for naught because loud people in my experience also tend to have a profound lack of self-awareness...
    I don't think awareness has much to do with being quiet or loud. I wasn't referring to all loud people, just people who say that.

    Also, I wouldn't say that because I have no problem with loud people. In fact, I'm usually attracted to talkative extraverts romantically.

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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    White noise in general helps people sleep.

    W/r to babies, I distinctively remember when I was younger that my hearing was extremely sharp, especially compared to what it is now after several decades and a few dozen ear infections. Every single creak, every single bug chirping, every single bird tweet, every single brush of a tree branch, I recall hearing distinctly. Very distracting. White noise fuzzes that all out, making it much easier to sleep.
    In the case of babies some also try to imitate the sounds that can be heard inside the maternal body: blood rushing (close to the usual white noise tracks out there), digestive gurgling and a heartbeat:



    Very soothing
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sultan of Beans View Post
    I don't think awareness has much to do with that. I wasn't referring to all loud people, just people who say that.
    And I wasn't referring to all loud people either, just those who ask that question. And I think awareness has a lot to do with it. As you said:

    If they're quiet because they're shy, you're just making it worse by making them feel bad about it. If they're quiet because they want to be, you're just making them feel misunderstood.
    Asking why someone is quiet is obnoxious. It puts people on the spot for not having done anything wrong. It's one thing to ask someone you know well why they're quiet, perhaps because you know them well enough to sense that something is amiss, and another thing entirely to ask someone you don't know well, who happens to have not said much, why they are quiet. The latter is rude, the latter is asked out of a lack of empathy, of being incapable of comprehending why someone might keep to themselves or doesn't feel the need to interject. It comes from a belief that being outgoing is 'normal', and anything is else is 'abnormal'; it's like asking "Why are you so weird?"

    So that's the whole point of asking "Why are you so loud?" in return. It's saying "I'm going to throw that question right back at you because it's rude."


    I should have clarified when I said "it's often for naught because loud people in my experience also tend to have a profound lack of self-awareness". In that sentence I meant loud in the sense of physical loudness, of having their personal volume knob turned up to 11. Being physically loud and indignantly asking "Why are you so quiet?", of having that belief that being outgoing is normal, tend to go hand-in-hand in my experience.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    though to be fair not really fair this is just an aside i usually put creamer in my cup first then coffee so i don't have to dirty a spoon. yesterday afternoon i forgot to put the creamer in and so it was only black coffee and I was like "somethings wrong with this coffee" then finally i realized it was because i didn't put creamer in.
    I will think "something's wrong with this coffee" if it contains anything except coffee. Unless it's cappuccino.

    Quote Originally Posted by BadOctopus View Post
    I like to tell them, "I'm not quiet. I'm introspective."
    How about: "You're making enough noise for both of us."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    I will think "something's wrong with this coffee" if it contains anything except coffee. Unless it's cappuccino.

    well of course, but i meant i was scared to drink it because i was like what if it's bad? as in would make me sick or poison me
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