I often find that people can like/dislike for many reasons...but then to me I don't really give a shit who likes me or not.I realized that in my life, I only attract 2 types of people: People who are drawn to me like moths to flame vs people who hate me intensely.
For the former category, I often have difficulty understanding why people would confide their secrets in me all the time.
So I decided to ask one of my close friends whom I have known for many years, and they told me that they feel comfortable talking to me because I am non-judgemental.
Thinking about this, I think their opinion of me is pretty accurate, because I am actually very open-minded and I am rarely judgemental of people. I tend to view this world in shades of grey rather than in black and white.
And then of course there is the people who hate me. No matter how nice and genuine I treat them, they still continue to find faults with me, they are always focusing on my flaws and are always upset with me.
How interesting. Two people can look at the same person but have completely different feelings and opinions about that same person. Let's have an example. Person A likes Person B because Person A thinks that Person B is a good person, but Person C hates Person B because Person C thinks that Person B is a hypocrite and a bad person etc.
So what defines Person B? Is Person B a good or bad person? How do you define a good person vs a bad person? There are times when good people does evil deeds, and there are times when evil people does good deeds too. Is anybody in this world ever completely good or completely evil? I don't believe it. I don't believe that this world is THAT black and white.
So I am appalled whenever I find out that people either idolize me or hate me intensely. I am a human and I have a good side as well as a dark side in me.
I am not 100% good, nor am I 100% evil.