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    Quote Originally Posted by Qlip View Post
    I can't get over how completely Nebraskan that video looks. Landscape, crops, weather.
    Homesick, you probably copied it:

    The five largest ancestry groups in Nebraska are German (38.6%), Irish (12.4%), English (9.6%), Mexican (8.7%), and Czech (5.5%).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nijntje View Post
    i think its abysmal we teach out girls "how not to get raped", rather than our sons "don't rape"
    Quote Originally Posted by senza tema View Post
    Yeah, because boys will be boys.
    I agree it's an issue that guys never are really taught this stuff. I wasn't.

    Do you think my advice has merit? I was trying to address that situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bamboo
    It can be as simple as asking the girl if she likes it, but how often do guys delude themselves into thinking the girl likes it?

    ?

    Clearly a lot.



    Being confident, direct, openly sexual, and even forceful has its place and is successful. But you can't just be blindly confident and certainly not blindly forceful. For a mutually enjoyable sexual encounter you have to have:

    - a sense of security and safety - establish/demonstrate boundaries - is she comfortable with you? you with her? (no? then back up and fix that before even thinking of anything else)

    - clear communication - establish rapport

    - "enthusiastic consent" - not merely "going along with it", but is she really into it? if you're guessing, you're probably in risky territory. don't guess. ask if you need to. (i think it's easiest to screw this one up, especially with quieter types of people where their enthusiasm doesn't peak dramatically higher than baseline, so the less variability they display the more careful/sensitive you need to be)

    - a sense that she's free to choose who or what she wants when she wants it (this one is fundamental, and I suppose I shouldn't assume people know this, so this should be at the top of the list)



    ...and then you can avoid a lot of problems and everyone will be better off for it.
    The point is I'm trying to establish parameters that teach people what to do. I get the sense that some guys hear some of this stuff and think that they have to neuter themselves to not cross boundaries, but that's really not the case.
    Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nicodemus View Post
    Homesick, you probably copied it:
    Yeah, I wondered if there was a connection between them deciding to settle down there and the resemblance in the vid. After all, the place I spent the most time in the country over there was in Worms, all filled with Gotts, Wagners, and Zimmermanns.

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    [no]

    Last edited by Ivy; 07-29-2013 at 07:11 PM. Reason: this is why you can't have nice things, Uber.

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    Maybe my Se isn't so poorly developed if my aesthetic tastes are decadent in nature. Or maybe I am epicurean to compensate for lack of Se.


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    After learning what Elvis burgers are, and considering howuch weight the guy put on, it's a wonder they didn't start to call him 'Elvis the disappearing pelvis'. What is with people and peanut butter on burgers?
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü™ View Post
    [no]

    Whoa, shit just got real.

    I don't like either side.
    Freedom isn't free.

    I'm that person that embodies pretty much everything that you hate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Urarienev View Post
    Whoa, shit just got real.

    I don't like either side.
    She's definitely worse. She is physically assaulting his eardrums, the eardrums of everyone who watches the video, and most importantly, my eardrums.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Ü™ View Post
    She's definitely worse. She is physically assaulting his eardrums, the eardrums of everyone who watches the video, and most importantly, my eardrums.
    He coulda got his shit done so they could spend time together though.

    She needs to find friends to spend time with on the boat/lake. And next time she needs to brings her own car and be prepared next time with a pack of cigarettes. She also could to stop worrying about what people will say. Also she could to get a journal, then our eardrums wont hurt.

    I feel bad for her though cause she wants something from him that he's never going to give, she can only get that from herself.

    I feel bad for her cause I have been in a relationship where I would do everything to have time together, and the guy would be lazy all week and then plan stupid chore shit for our days off together. And I'd end up disappointed...judger vs. perceiver crap. However, I don't think I went as bat shit crazy though lol...nor do I smoke.

    That's why getting a journal could help her deal with her emotions lol.
    Freedom isn't free.

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