Thread: Random Thought Thread
07-28-2013, 08:55 PM #35531Originally Posted by Nørrsken impersonating EJCC
1w2/7w6/3w4 so/sx (enneagram)
lawful good (D&D) / ravenclaw + wampus (HP) / boros legion (M:TG)
conscientious > sensitive > serious (oldham)
want to ask me something? go for it!
07-28-2013, 08:57 PM #35532
07-28-2013, 08:59 PM #35533
Of course I've kicked ass 5, mayyyyybe 6 times in my life and even then not literally. So the odds of ass-kickage proceeding from my person upon demand are no more than modest.
07-28-2013, 09:04 PM #35534
07-28-2013, 09:16 PM #35535
It does make me wonder how many "success stories" I've heard of the results of being confident, forceful and openly sexual are actually unwitting rape/sexual-harassment stories.
07-29-2013, 02:00 AM #35536
07-29-2013, 02:34 AM #35537
Clearly a lot.
Being confident, direct, openly sexual, and even forceful has its place and is successful. Certainly seems that way. But coupled with that if you have:
- a sense of security and safety - establish/demonstrate boundaries - is she comfortable with you? you with her? (no? then back up and fix that before even thinking of anything else)
- clear communication - establish rapport
- "enthusiastic consent" - not merely "going along with it", but is she really into it? if you're guessing, you're probably in risky territory. don't guess. ask if you need to. (i think it's easiest to screw this one up, especially with quieter types of people where their enthusiasm doesn't peak dramatically higher than baseline, so the less variability they display the more careful/sensitive you need to be)
- a sense that she's free to choose who or what she wants when she wants it
...then you can avoid a lot of problems and everyone will be better off for it.Don't know how much it'll bend til it breaks.
07-29-2013, 02:42 AM #35538GinkgoGuest
I like activities that can be completed in some sort of queue so you can organize your multitasking.
07-29-2013, 04:35 AM #35539
07-29-2013, 06:46 AM #35540
Terrible things happen to good people every day.
Consequentially, I am not one of the good people.
I am one of the terrible things..