I don't compliment people to make them feel good. I compliment to reinforce good behaviour.
A man builds. A parasite asks 'Where is my share?'
A man creates. A parasite says, 'What will the neighbors think?'
A man invents. A parasite says, 'Watch out, or you might tread on the toes of God... '
Geez, yeah. I just try to keep in mind that people have their layers--that there's some "figurin' one another out" before we truly get to the core of the other. Until then, we're putting on at least a bit of a 'front' for the other.
Some people are destined to be our acquaintances, it seems; fewer are destined to be our close friends.
Mm good point (gracias for the link too!).
I'm just so used to my years of long distance relationships and distance friendships. So used to the conversation being the norm and only saying "Oh hey stop- let's Do and watch/listen/etc something together" ... having so much Doing going on and needing to say "Oh hey stop- let's converse" seems to have more of an abrupt and serious undertone. It makes my harmonious skin crawl to really contemplate, because for so many people they can only have their Doing lives interrupted if it is categorized as being seriously worth the interruption.
"Turn that off so we can talk...... what's your favorite color? " Doesn't feel like the best transition.
Hang on traveling woman - Don't sacrifice your plan
Cause it will come back to you - Before you lose it on the man