I have a confrontation brewing and I need to know if I am being unreasonable in all honesty. I'd also like to know the most direct, mature and clear-cut way of resolving this situation. I know what I'd like to do!!
There is a lady I know from a social group who also happened to move in next door to me. She is mentally unstable, takes lots of meds and everyone knows it. She likes to pick men who will take care of her and cannot keep a job. Her current man is getting fed up with her. In our social group she has been going to all of the other single, lonely guys and flirting hard. I could care less about that. She is not bad looking really and if you were to only talk to her for less then 3 minutes you wouldn't know anything was wrong upstairs! She keeps saying though she wants to be friends with me for some reason.
Anyway here is the rub. A couple of weeks ago my husband answered the door while I was gone and there she was wanting to talk to him about something trivial. I was recently on a trip to KS (several states away) and she came on my back porch yet again to offer her sympathy to him. He said she was standing in the rain looking all sad and looking behind him into the house. After that I was gone to work yet another evening and she came over to our house again claiming to want to talk to me! My garage is open and (from your own back door even) you can very clearly see if my vehicle is there or not! She doesn't come over when I am actually here.
Here's what is bothering me. Hanover didn't let her in. He keeps telling me not to worry about it and that I don't NEED to do anything. He says he's got it and she will catch on soon enough. If he had let her in she would have twisted it all over my social group like she did to someone else who was nice to her! I'm glad he had the smarts for that! Anyway I've got this pretty solid standing principle....you don't go to a married/boyfriends house repeatedly when the wife/girlfriend is not home!!! I really, really, really, really, really want to say something. I'm kind of afraid to in way though as I've got a temper upon occasion! Please tell me what you would do and if I am being loony or too possessive or not seeing something!! Thanks!