Well, I always thought that all emotions were, to various extents, driven by sexual feelings from either the conscious or subconscious. And I always thought intimacy is simply the more visible and conscious thought of sexuality. Intimacy equates to powerful feelings, while sympathy is a more PC expression, but is still driven by the same train of thought -- it's an emotion, maybe not powerful, but regardless, an emotion, and so, it's a much, much milder sexual feeling whose sexuality is neither obvious nor felt consciously.
I guess if you're going to be over-the-top Freudian . . .
I disagree with you, though. I think it's possible that because certain feelings are outside your own experience at this time, you are trying to justify them in terms that make sense to you and it isn't getting you good results.
“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.” ~ John Rogers