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    Too much mothering can be smothering.

    The end.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainChick View Post
    Too much mothering can be smothering.

    The end.

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    Oh go on.

    You would be a wonderful mother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Victor View Post
    My very first girlfriend told me I was a mummy's boy - and I am.

    I love my mum and my mum loves me, so much so that I am inclined to mother my own girlfriend and I insist she mother me.

    Most girls I have found like to be mothered by me, but a very few have found me 'demanding' when I have wanted them to mother me in turn.

    Mutual mothering, of course, opens up the deeper reaches of the human psyche. It opens up all those little hurts and all those little joys that lovers love to share.

    It opens us to a mutual vulnerability that underlies a solemn play or deeply light-hearted joy.

    It banishes the defences and enables a flowing mutual empathy.

    And it enlivens the mind and the body with every breath - until we are breathing together - breath to breath - until just one breath stains the night air.
    I can just hear Freud now...

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    I can just hear Freud now...
    You can? What does he have to say?

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    Quote Originally Posted by burkeus View Post
    You can? What does he have to say?
    Uh I asked him if he wanted to say anything to you, and he shook his head. *awkward*

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    I hate visiting my parents house, it's more central in the city than my house and it's full of extraverts, noise, argueing, bitter memories, pressure, it's just one long nightmare that I very rarely put myself through.

    I miss it sometimes, the smell of my step mothers food cooking mostly. But I don't miss the tension that I feel when my father is there, the "will he acknowledge me or will he dismiss me as usual" feelings that I get, or having to keep a close eye on my purse because of my insane siblings, or having to read between the lines of everything my stepmother is saying to me, or the spiteful games my siblings play to show me how much of an outsider I really am.

    I only go rarely because I feel guilted into it, if I could ditch the guilt I wouldn't ever consider stepping foot in that house again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    I can just hear Freud now...
    Well, Freud's aim was to make the unconscious, conscious.

    And his method was to act as a surrogate mother.

    Normally we only get one person in our lives who loves us unconditionally. And that is our mother.

    But with Freud, we get two - our mother and our therapist.

    But for those who have tapped into their creative unconscious, such as two lovers, the flower of unconditional love is not only possible but desirable.

    And unconditional love and desire are combustible.

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    I arrive at the airport. Sometimes both my mother and father pick me up, but more often it's just my dad who is there. I get home, my mom always has one of my favorite dishes ready. We spend a couple hours just hanging out talking up a storm. Daddy about work, family, other people, etc. Mommy about her latest designs, her garden and plants, health, family friends, other people. I head to my room for a nap. We eat dinner then watch the news. Commentary/jokes. Usually have visitors, where I will rinse and repeat with the latest relevant updates. Spend the rest of the evening lazing about or watching TV.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Victor View Post
    Well, Freud's aim was to make the unconscious, conscious.

    And his method was to act as a surrogate mother.

    Normally we only get one person in our lives who loves us unconditionally. And that is our mother.

    But with Freud, we get two - our mother and our therapist.

    But for those who have tapped into their creative unconscious, such as two lovers, the flower of unconditional love is not only possible but desirable.

    And unconditional love and desire are combustible.
    What about Father's?

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    I learned something both amusing and disturbing from my husband after a visit to my parents home when I was in my twenties.

    He asked me if I were aware that I "revert to about fifteen years old" when we visited them. After that I started to pay attention and noticed that he was right. That was the start of learning how to have an adult relationship with my parents. And, somewhat unfortunately, having to teach them the same in reciprocation.

    It was a good thing to learn. Now I am having to learn how to be a good "parent" to my mother.

    Changes. Sigh.
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