I get the impression her mind is a bundle of ideas that she can't unravel until she's vocalized them. But I don't know that for sure.
Well that's just how it is for me, anyway. Also, for lots of my fellow E friends... I'm really not sure about ESFJ's though. My mom's one and though she's smart, she doesn't seem to really like conversations about anything 'difficult' or challenging. She reads stuff a lot, but doesn't really talk about it, very hard to get her to do so. All she seems to want to talk about is neutral, mundane topics. Given how much knowledge I know she has that I'd love her to share with me, I find it quite frustrating. She's definitely an E though...
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"When it all comes down to dust
I will kill you if I must
I will help you if I can" - Leonard Cohen
- I like being around people that enjoy me, and people that I enjoy. It makes me feel like I belong there, and I am meant to be with these people rather than alone in a box.
- You can interact with people. It's cool because sometimes they react in ways that you would, and sometimes they react in ways that you wouldn't.
- Generally, I just like people. (Individuals, but humanity in all it's great achievements...eh, doesn't really do it for me.) Like, they make me feel warm and fuzzy.
- I feel left out when I'm not being social. I don't like missing out.
What do you see in other people(in general) that you deside to hang out with them?
Lol, it's not really a decision. If we have natural "friend chemistry", we just stick together automatically- you know, same sense of humor, perhaps having similar interests, same family background, etc.
"Casual socializing" or whatever, where it's not really set up for you, where you kind of just talk to people wherever you are or have to talk to acquaintances...lol it's not like that's a choice. I just take whatever comes up. I guess it's just that I prefer socializing when there's other people around than being closed up in my own little self.
What happens to you if you don't socialize during longer period of time?
...This hasn't ever happened to me for an extended period of time, and hopefully this never will, heh. I think whenever I don't get to hang out with certain people in my life that I need exposure to in order to have fun or stay sane, I feel like I'm missing out and get all bitter and full of self-hatred, doubt my own worth and whatnot. Erm, but otherwise going through a period of not going on social outings in general has the same effect on me as if I hadn't left the house for a long time. I feel all cooped up and start to go nuts.
How do you take conflict on personal level?
Do I? Well, it makes me sad when people regard me...badly. Because...I regard others very highly. But if this isn't the case, then I wouldn't. I'm not sure what you're asking for in this question.
Heh, I always score to nearly 100% on E in tests.
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Originally Posted by ThatGirl
holy shit am I a feeler?
if you like my avatar, it's because i took it myself! : D
Some people have said to me that people create emotional bound when they talk to each other.
Is this true?
Can you describe it?
I think this is basically recognition of the sameness of the other. Identification. We share similar thoughts, therefore we share something in common, therefore some of my ego extends over and connects to the other. Also, I don't think this is conscious. It has been proven that people respond to people who are paying attention to them. At some level, we all want to be recognized as it confirms our own existence, in a way.
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."
too many extroverts in here to resist extroverts dont necessarily think less, all the "E" types have a dominant extroverted process, so the mental interaction occurs with what is external to themselves. in social settings, this might mean they will think out loud more often.
You don't think that people's words and actions betray the amount of thinking they do? I would tend to disagree.
Yes, to a certain extent. However, introverts choose when and where and with whom to share their thoughts, and it's possible that if you're dominating a real-life debate, they'll just choose to let you have your say and keep their thoughts to themselves. We don't like not being heard, and if the voices around us are a lot louder than ours, we'll just save our energy.
You can't assume that just because you haven't heard someone's thoughts, that they're not there.