Do you regret your past?
I just you know, opened the Pandora's box and i realized i kinda regret my past. I hope i built guts, buit courage to stand up for what i really want and didn't hide...
But then, past is past and must move on, learn from the past... It's not the end of the world anyways.. And we live in the present moment.. Eventhough my past has been great, it doesn't matter since i live in the present.
Just thought of it..
Do you have any regrets about your past?
I'm still relatively young but my take on regretting my past is that it's hard to call it a simple matter of regret.
I'm partly created out of the influence of that past. If I change a part (or possessed the power to) am I not also completely altering the person in the present and future? And this can sometimes run to some extreme conclusion of being about having a problem with yourself. Certainly there are some things I would have done differently & at my lowest ebbs I feel the ache of the past at it's strongest.
However, outside of inherently traumatic actions/choices, I can only see any regret being useful as a catalyst for learning across contexts. People often talk of what they would tell a younger self (there are threads on here about it I think, which I have also participated in) but as I go along I realised that since I was that child, there is no way I would listen, not even to myself.
After all: I've already experienced it. And sometimes we ignore advice that we have already told ourselves because we don't appreciate a repackaging, but contrariness in youth can make us avoid/reject it altogether and stop work on areas of growth that might have been more beneficial.
Ultimately I regret most the self-destructive emotionalism that closed off opportunity & words/actions aimed to hurt those who didn't deserve it. Besides, regret doesn't have to be such a bad thing; reminders are always useful as we have short memories.
At least, short where it would be better if they were long lasting.
Yes in lots of ways. But the good thing is that the future doesnt have to be a repeat of it- its open.
They're all lessons. You don't grow (as well) without mistakes and perspective from experiences.
I do wish I wouldn't have hurt some people at certain times, but now I know better and I can also forgive easier because I understand what it's like to be the perpetrator. Empathy and forgiveness are very important, both toward yourself and others.
"Fate and character are different names for the same idea.”
Definitely. Certain aspects of it. Like everyone. But nothing I cant live with.
“I have long held the opinion that the amount of noise that anyone can bear undisturbed stands in inverse proportion to his mental capacity and therefore be regarded as a pretty fair measure of it.” ~ Schopenhauer
I do pretty often on certain things, but only the future will tell whether I will entirely regret them or not anymore. Although, one recent regret is I should have slept more; that way my mind would be clearer for the day today.
"One must work and dare if one really wants to live."
~ Vincent van Gogh
The past still does matter. I regret some of it and wish I could've reached this place in my life without having to go through certain things.
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