CzeCze, I asked my friend for the exact tone that the other director asked her for the cake. She says she was more surprised that he even asked her and that registered on her face as her initial reaction. Then she was a offended that he asked her so that was her secondary emotion. This all took place within a matter of seconds and it seems that he responded very quickly to her body language. I'm just really sensitive to power balances and I fear for my reaction in the same situation. I think my reaction would've been stronger than my friend's and.