Remember that Simpson's when Flanders lands the basketball in the basket from I think either half court or full court distance and wins like 100,000 and says I'm giving it to charity and Homer gets pissed off and screams NO!!! Not Charity!
Or when George Costanza gets alerted that he needs to join in on a gift for yet another person and steams, Where does it end!
I can so relate!
Gifting is so stressful to me. I don't like receiving gifts from people who I don't feel close to because then I feel obligated to them- and also it pisses me off how people act like they are absolved of any responsibility because they gave you something- like it gives them moral invincibility.
I don't like to give gifts to people I don't care about either- because it feels like I am paying off guilty feelings. Perhaps because things have sentimental value to me- if there is no sentiment behind it- then it is just a waste- it is a lie.
I have a very defined heirarchy as well when it comes to gifts. I believe you should spend more on your spouse then anyone else with the possible exception of children. Best friends should get more then aquaintainces. There should be distinctions.
I don't like giving to charity either- I think to myself I am a charity. I get confused by people who give a lot and then complain that they don't have money or get stressed out about finances. I see people who give until it breaks them and then they need help from everyone else to stay afloat- they become a bigger charity case then the charity they were trying to help.
Hubby and I actually tithe 10 percent- but I am in no rush to go over that! I am not against tithing or giving to charity- I am just very survivalist I guess and yes I want room for a little seflishness.