They see nothing but their own perspective, and deal with the world only so far as they need to in order to support their perspective. These individuals usually come across as somewhat illogical and full of fixed and often rather staid or conventional ideas about the world. Other people are often surprised by the simplicity, ambiguity and often unrelenting vehemence of their ideas. ESFJ Personal Growth
One tried to kill me and nearly succeeded and it was all in his imagination. Another one spreads false gossip. They can be a menace.
I'm convinced you are an emotionally & intellectually mature person, one who does more than meets their needs, but follows activities of self-actualization to better yourself.
I'm also convinced most of these ESFJ "horror stories" refer to folks who aren't one tenth as mature as you are. There is a very, very wide difference between the mindsets of these two types of people--of ANY type. The real question should be, why do people bitch so loudly about the immature ESFJ examples?
I guess it's the lack of understanding I was talking about earlier. Many people fear what they don't understand. And I know from my own bad traits (and from the type descriptions and some stories on here) that a bad ESFJ would be quite a nutcase. Like the crazy ex-wife or religious nut mother or something like that. But I never think to myself "What an asshole that INTP is." INTPs, what do you do that sucks and would make me dislike you?
Who wants to try a bottle of merc's "Extroversion Olive Oil?"
I have one good friend who is an ESFJ. She hasn't taken any tests, but I know her very well and there is no way she could be any other type. She is a wonderful wife and mother. Dotes on her children and very patient with them. Her kids are very annoying and her twins are spaz's but she just carries on as if everything is great. Her husband I believe is an ISTJ and If he were my husband I'd kick his ass. He is so controlling and calls her constantly to check and make sure shes mopped the floor or some other inane crap. he's such a dick.
Yes if I was an ESFJ woman, I'm sure I'd be bitching about the xSTJ men right now.