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  • I am always a giver.

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  • I am mostly a giver.

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  • I am roughly balanced between giving and taking.

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  • I am mostly a taker.

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    Default Givers and Takers

    There are two broad groups in our society, givers and takers. Givers give to takers and takers take from givers. Which would you call yourself?

    I doubt most people are pure givers, but rarely I could see somebody as a pure taker if something was wrong with them.
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    Giver definitely.

    If I see my enemy in danger, I will even risk my own life to save them. I don't treat people the way they treated me, because an eye for an eye only makes the world go blind, so I treat everybody the same way regardless of how they treated me.

    I think most people would have a combination of giver and taker tendencies in them.

    I personally consider myself a 75% giver and a 25% taker.

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    I don't like assigning people to an either/or category like that. Even the framework itself might be limiting.

    There are times in your life where it is important to be a giver, but there are also valid times where you can be a taker. (For example, in the parent/child relationship, parents naturally give more because they are more mature and have more resources, and meanwhile the child is taking because they are growing and not quite yet independent. Does that mean a child is "bad" in the sense of being a "taker"? Not necessarily.)

    I've also gone through a period of life where I had to take more than I could give, after having been giving and giving for quite awhile. I just did not have the resources to survive without finally accepting energy and support from others. I felt guilt at the time because I wasn't used to being dependent on others in any way, or asking them for help; but being a taker in that situation overall was necessary and not bad even though my own emotions about it were confusing.

    If we're just viewing it as "someone is typically looking out for others = Giver" and "someone who is typically first and foremost concerned about themselves = Taker," then I suppose that makes more sense. But that's really more about other-centered vs self-centered. The self-centered tend to drain the system without contributing much back; they're consumers.
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    I don't want to be either. I want to be an island.
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so
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    Self-centered rather than others-centered 80% of the time. I think I take more than I give in most aspects of my life (emotionally, materially, etc.), something I'm definitely not proud of and that's ultimately made my life less fulfilling than it could be. Taking from others is easier than giving for me, but I think I would be happier and more connected to others if I allowed myself to give as much as I take.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Complexity View Post
    Giver definitely.

    If I see my enemy in danger, I will even risk my own life to save them. I don't treat people the way they treated me, because an eye for an eye only makes the world go blind, so I treat everybody the same way regardless of how they treated me.

    I think most people would have a combination of giver and taker tendencies in them.

    I personally consider myself a 75% giver and a 25% taker.
    I take it you didn't vote?
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    I say this as a reminder to myself, but this goes for everyone:

    You can achieve anything you set your mind to, and you are limited only by how dedicated you are to succeed!

    -Magic Qwan

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    i try to be both in an honest and mindful way. i don't think it's necessarily bad to do one more than the other at a given time, as long as you don't stay stuck in one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    I don't like assigning people to an either/or category like that. Even the framework itself might be limiting.

    There are times in your life where it is important to be a giver, but there are also valid times where you can be a taker. (For example, in the parent/child relationship, parents naturally give more because they are more mature and have more resources, and meanwhile the child is taking because they are growing and not quite yet independent. Does that mean a child is "bad" in the sense of being a "taker"? Not necessarily.)

    I've also gone through a period of life where I had to take more than I could give, after having been giving and giving for quite awhile. I just did not have the resources to survive without finally accepting energy and support from others. I felt guilt at the time because I wasn't used to being dependent on others in any way, or asking them for help; but being a taker in that situation overall was necessary and not bad even though my own emotions about it were confusing.

    If we're just viewing it as "someone is typically looking out for others = Giver" and "someone who is typically first and foremost concerned about themselves = Taker," then I suppose that makes more sense. But that's really more about other-centered vs self-centered. The self-centered tend to drain the system without contributing much back; they're consumers.
    Those are the definitions I was using.
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    I say this as a reminder to myself, but this goes for everyone:

    You can achieve anything you set your mind to, and you are limited only by how dedicated you are to succeed!

    -Magic Qwan
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    Quote Originally Posted by five sounds View Post
    i try to be both in an honest and mindful way. i don't think it's necessarily bad to do one more than the other at a given time, as long as you don't stay stuck in one.
    Interesting. I always thought self-centered takers were bad and others-centered givers were good.
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    I say this as a reminder to myself, but this goes for everyone:

    You can achieve anything you set your mind to, and you are limited only by how dedicated you are to succeed!

    -Magic Qwan

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    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Qwan View Post
    I take it you didn't vote?
    no I didn't vote... :S

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