They can give you anything you desire, but they'll take anything you value.
"An upsidedown wire heart
Being sucked into a periscope
Still the mind is dull
Like you need another excuse"
… a theory is primarily a form of insight, i.e. a way of looking
at the world, and not a form of knowledge of how the world is….
.. all our different ways of thinking are to be considered as
different ways of looking at the one reality, each with some
domain in which it is clear and adequate…. - David Bohm
I take what I am given and give what I take. Unless something's taken from me, then I give no giving. But I take no joy in it. Unless it's a giving party, then I might take less, or maybe not at all, and give like it's going out of style. I took a lot of entertainment when I watched Taken, but I did not give much in return, cuz as fun as that movie is, let's face it, it's pretty 2 dimensional. I am a big taker when it comes to office pens.
I've had this ice cream bar, since I was a child!
Each thought's completely warped
I'm like a walkin', talkin', ouija board.
I think I tend to focus more on others, but it gets me in trouble sometimes because I don't focus enough on meeting my own practical needs, and then I often feel forced to turn to others for help in a pinch. So, instead of taking care of my own needs in a way that others can navigate around and/or help with on their own time, I often end up forcing my taking on them at inconvenient times to them. I would vote roughly even for myself because I suspect it mostly ends up balancing out - truthfully, I think it ends up balancing out for most people. I think it is rare to find those who are heavily skewed either way.
I also think there is power and wisdom in taking care of yourself, and that it is important to establish a balance. As @Jennifer mentioned, I think roles are important, in a sort of circle-of-life way. It's good to take from your parents. That's why they decided to become parents, to give life. It's good to take from your teachers and mentors; they intentionally expend their energy to make your taking easier and more efficient. And when you feel like you are in a place where you can give of your own earned resources, I think it's being a good citizen to give back in ways that empower others in the same way that your givers helped empower you.
@Magic Qwan, you might get tired of my thoughts eventually - but I think that instead of working on giving more, it might be helpful for you to work on establishing your balance. I think you already know this, but it's not really super helpful to society at large if you're taking from disability checks and giving it back to homeless people - that's sort of just a static cycle instead of using it to propel you and them upwards. Both you and them deserve more than that. The church is one source you can take from - schools, trusted teachers, counselors, doctors, people you look up to, friends - all sources you can take from with solace that they exist in part to help you, or at least provide some inspiration. Have you spoken to family friends and acquaintances about wanting a job? I think volunteering would be a fantastic way to help give without depleting your own resources. It can also help build your resume.
My family says talk is cheap, though volunteer seems nice since I can hone my giving without necessarily having to do it in a set way. For example, I once was collecting money for a homeless shelter and got borrd doing it the way I was at first and put a sign on my head to make a character to draw attention to out setup. It was fun. I think we got more donations after I did that.
Enneagram: 6w7 (phobic) > 2w1 > 9w1 Alignment: Neutral Good Holland Code: AIS Date of Birth: March 15, 1996 Gender: Male Political Stance: Libertarian Liberal (Arizona School/Strong BHL) ATHEIST UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST HUMANIST and SCIENCE ENTHUSIAST
I say this as a reminder to myself, but this goes for everyone:
You can achieve anything you set your mind to, and you are limited only by how dedicated you are to succeed!