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    Default Lending people money

    Is this something you do or don’t do? What have been your experiences with this?

    I did this recently with someone I considered a good friend and got screwed over. I’m thinking about implementing a new personal rule as to where this is something I just don’t do anymore.

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    I do, if I can. Basically I don't expect it back and I like you, if I'm lending money and I don't need that money.
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    I only lend an amount I would be ok giving that person.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gromit View Post
    I only lend an amount I would be ok giving that person.
    Yep... same here. I'm fine lending friends money, but when I do I accept that I may never get it back. If I'm not okay with that, then I don't lend it. So far it's been a non-issue for me, and the times I have been repaid, it has come as a pleasant surprise.

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    I lent my former roommates around $4000 over the course of a year (I eventually got it all back). I did it at first because I was being kind, as I continued I did so out of not wanting to get in trouble.

    I will never lend people money ever again.
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    If it's a smaller amount, I don't mind lending money, or even covering a friend's expenses.

    If it's a significant amount, you gotta be a tier 1 friend, have a clean credit history, agree to any conditions I ask for regarding repayment and have proven you're a man or woman of your word.
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    How can someone call you their friend if they never plan on paying you back? What's going inside their head when they make these empty promises?

    When you lend out money, it's not only money that you're loaning out, it's trusting that the other person will do the right thing in compliance to the friendship you have. I find it very difficult to keep those around that I feel that I can't trust on any level. This is why I notice that I rarely keep strong "P" types as friends. It's not due from misjudging or stereotyping them, but from trial and error.

    I'll help out a good friend in a heart beat, but don't expect me to be all forgiving when kindness goes unreciprocated. It's just not practical.
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    yeah normally, i'd only lend money that was a small amount and i wouldn't mind not getting back. with most of my friends, we kind of keep unofficial track of things. like "oh, you picked that up for me last time, i'll get your drinks tonight" or something.

    larger sums of money i'd have to be in a good financial place and trust that the person would pay me back. i've only done this with family.
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    I do only under the assumption I never see it again. If I feel I'll resent helping, I won't do it.
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    No, never. I'll outright pay for something if I feel like doing it. But loans are never on the table.

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