I think both Fluffy and Ginkgo understood my meaning correctly, and I didn't expect that level of response from Zara.
(I didn't even see his response until later, after I rejoined staff and Tuesday night saw them discussing it in the Box, since I had him Ignored and only read his posts and Quoted posts selectively. I was surprised by the content.)
I have mixed feelings about his departure and feel bad about it, even though Zara wrote the post. I don't think Zara's a "dumbfuck" nor was that ever my point; He's very intelligent, and it's mostly TiNe / NiTe factors that seem to bring us into conflict when it happens. (Note it's JiNe folks who understood me correctly.)
Today I saw the last post he made to me in the thread, and I thought it reasonable. I wish he had responded that way the first time.
That's about all I can say about it.