1. Have you ever gotten the impression from another member that they don’t want you to engage them?
1a. Did it dissuade you from posting in threads (assuming you know several other people participating in the thread who are engaging you)? Or did it dissuade you from replying more specifically to that individual, but not especially from threads? How much, overall, do you feel it hinders your ability to participate with other people?
No. I am in no way insecure about my thoughts and ideas that it would make me second guess my willingness to participate when I wish to, and I also have no expectations when I do so.
It is also not due to lack of empathy (As I can imagine empathy can be a drive force to prevent you from posting), if anything in these cases it is because of empathy that I post with increased diligence to make my statements as accurate and understandable as possible.
1b. Did it make you angry? Or did it evoke any other strong reaction?
Never anger. I fully understand the limits of interacting on a medium such as a forum and if this envokes a strong reaction, it is one of kindness.
1c. Any other thoughts/grievances you want to share?
I am of opinion that withholding ones opinion is never a good idea. The only place where you can go wrong is expecting people to adhere to your opinions. You should never do that. Put your opinions out there and allow the readers to do with those opinions as they please.
2. Have there ever been any members you avoid engaging/interacting with yourself?
Not specifically, but of course it is also true I gravitate towards people I like more than people I don't, or like less. Still, if I have something to say I say it regardless of my opinion about that person.
3. Do you feel like you generally pick up on someone else trying to avoid you, or would you prefer to be directly asked not to engage someone and to not have to rely at all on body language/cues of disinterest/aversion? [In thinking of this thread.]
I recall two instances only on this forum, there's probably more. I think I'm probably more oblivious to this then I'd like to believe I am.
3a. If you personally prefer the person contact you with a direct request to avoid interacting with you- when? As soon as they feel any aversion? or would you prefer the ‘soft no’ tactics first, then a direct request if that doesn't take?
If someone wishes not to interact with me, whilest I am interacting with them, I imagine they would stop interacting with me, thus ending the issue. If that is not the case, and I am oblivious to the fact, a more direct request would do it. I am not so conceited as to believe that everyone should be privileged to converse with me and that no one could not possibly have any issues with me whatsoever. I would respect a direct request.
3b. Suppose someone noticed you were backing away enough to actually state something like “Wow, I’m getting the cold shoulder from you”- and yet they didn’t take this as an indication they should give you some space, and kept persisting to interact regardless. (As happened in the article in that thread.) Would you know how to handle that?
I would know how to handle it, but it's no issue for me. Whilest I understand people may wish to avoid me, I don't have a wish to avoid others myself, as I've stated with the second question.
4. How do you handle such situations (of feeling an aversion so some individual in the group) in real life- such as work environment (e.g. I don’t know, break room maybe), regular places you hang out, school, etc?
I'd be direct about it and leave if the issue persists.
4a. In your opinion, how is this situation different in an online forum than in real life venues? Do you think that generally people should feel more or less obligated to ignore any aversion they feel towards another person because of the way this forum works?
I think it's easier to step away on the forum. In real life there are situations where you have to deal with certain people on a regular basis and reaching a mutual understanding is not only beneficial but a requirement. Whereas on the forum you can essentially coexist next to each other without becoming each others problem, simply by not directly engaging. On a forum there is nothing to force you to interact with certain members.