You ask how you could empathize very well? Daniel Goleman says: "The more sharply attentive we are, the more keenly we will sense another person's inner state.... self absorption in all its forms kills empathy." "In today's psychology, the word "empathy" is used in three distinct senses: knowing another person's feelings; feeling what that person feels; and responding compassionately to another's distress. .... I notice you, I feel with you, and so I act to help you."
I think empathy without acts has no value in itself.