I've been pulling the strings of my bickering family members for a little while now since it pains me to see them in such heated arguments when I love them all and I'm stuck in the middle, basically translating for what the other party said, and it very nearly came undone when I let something slip in my conversation with my parents. I was able to patch things up but dang it! I ended up having to spend another hour on the phone with my mom to cover my misstep.
What it boils down to is, I know how my brother thinks, reacts, and projects, and I know how my mom and dad think, react, and project, and the three can often clash (parents vs brother). My problem is, I see where everyone is coming from and agree with them all! So I take no bias and thus, reside in the middle whenever my parents get in an argument with my brother. Also, my brother and I are best friends essentially, and my parents love me since I'm the oldest (you know how that goes, kidding!) Sooo...because I know them all very well and since they often dish their frustrations of the other side onto me, I've basically been telling my brother what to say and how to react, which has been helping a lot, and been telling my parents the same. All while using a language that the corresponding party would understand.
This isn't a fun project of mine at all, I can just be very pragmatic at times when I'm moved enough to do so, and when I see a problem between people, I do what I do best. Basically the arguments seem to stem from two strong Ni/Te users (NTJs) dueling it out thinking that their intuition is the correct version of the situation, with my ISFJ mom feeling hurt because of the blunt nature of a strong Te user arguing against her. Thus, I use Ne to provide my NTJ brother and dad the perspective they could really use in the situation, to help them understand the other side and present a new way of thinking about it, and my mom the emotional understanding and "translation" from the Ni/Te projections of my brother. He's 24 too, so he's still a maturing NTJ with plenty of arrogance and stubbornness to go around.
Ugh, I just want this stuff to end. This has been going on for six months now
Somehow this "confession" turned into a "rant", then turned into a "random thought". Combining three threads into one post, neat!
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