so you manipulated people? I don't mean that in a what's it called way.
what's-it-called.. maybe "bad"? I guess?
Yeah, I think it's fair to call it manipulation. In more of a 'withholding the truth' sort of way. It was a flat-out lie, though, when people asked me if I was surprised and I said that I was.
edit: I'm usually pretty blunt, direct, and truthful--especially with those closest to me. For some reason, I thought it was more prudent to withhold the truth here. Probably because I'm not a fan of parties being held for me, but I'm a fan of parties; and using something like a birthday as an excuse to party; but people like doing things for people on their birthdays so whatever. In my mind, it was for everyone, not just for me.
Yeah, I think it's fair to call it manipulation. In more of a 'withholding the truth' sort of way.
It was a flat-out lie, though, when people asked me if I was surprised and I said that I was.
I do that, someone won't ask me something, and I know I should probably tell them, but I don't want to get in trouble, so I hold it in. or sometimes someone will ask if I'm doing something I'm suppose to be doing, and I'll straight up, say yes
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i get overwhelmed and don't know where to start and then i do nothing and waste more time. this causes stress. which causes more shutting down and distraction.
Yeah, I've got a few techniques for this. Just pick a small entry point, something easy, like if it's a document... setting up the margins, and pretending that's all that all I'm ever going to do, that can put my into the project, because while I'm in that space, I inhabit the space and it makes it easier to start in on.
Another is that I think about the 'next' thing I want to do, the thing that I am really excited about, and I think of this thing as a chore blocking me from what I want, and needs to be obliterated.
If it's a personal project, usually my lack of enthusiasm means that the end result isn't engaging enough to qualify it as a personal project, so it needs a rework, or to be shelved until I get a new perspective.
If I have multiple projects, I'll just switch to another. I do well on doing chores while I'm gleefully escaping another chore. Sometimes I can find a way to slip back into the original one.
The final 'no-avoiding it' solution is to recognize the pattern, expect I am going to waffle for the next couple of hours and just stress myself out. So I drop it and just go do something fun instead. During fun, my brain still attaches to the task and feels it out. This may not work for a 7.
I spend a lot of energy bluffing, double bluffing and otherwise manipulating myself.
When I was 14 I got it into my head that I could totally pierce my own nose, and like with all of my other dumb ideas, it didn't stay an idea and now I have a small raised scar on the right side of my nose which I will have to pay to get painfully sanded down or something.