I think my ISTJ dad probably would have been a good dad for me, except for the fact that he was under the impression that taking care of kids was the mother's department. This probably was a major cause of conflict with an INFP whose whole thing was rebelling against an upbringing that saw being an ISFJ as the ultimate model of womanhood, i.e., the virgin Mary.
Originally Posted by BadOctopus
My ENTJ dad was the same way. The only attention he gave us was directed at my brothers and doing "guy things" with them. "I'm the dad, so I have to teach my sons woodworking and fishing. My daughters... can stay in the kitchen with their mother." To this day, my dad knows next to nothing about me, because he's never bothered to learn. Once, when he was talking about sailing, I told him that I liked nautical fiction, and he looked at me like I'd sprouted another head. Because girls aren't supposed to like tall wooden sailing ships.
Needless to say, I'm not convinced that fathers are all that essential.
Originally Posted by Lark
I am sorry about that.
Its not an unpopular view.
Originally Posted by Qlip
I think about this a lot. I agree in certain situations this is true.
Originally Posted by small.wonder
Aw man, that sucks-- I'm sorry you were so dismissed. My Dad was seriously absent, but at least when he was there he encouraged me to be and do what I love (whatever it was). I think caring, loving, encouraging fathers are essential (just like mothers). I think across the board, everyone could do without the negative aspects of their parents, but it makes us who we are. My Mom put me more in the "girls do this" box than my Dad did, actually.
I think this is a generational thing. My father was born in '49, a baby boomer, and he too believed that parenting and discipling children is the mother's role. My friends, whose dads' are also baby boomers, comment on the same thing.
I don't know many guys with children but, the younger fathers who come into work with their children, seem as attentive and caring as the mother. It's really sweet to watch them and realise the effort they put in. It makes me appreciate feminism and the evolving gender roles even more.
i have the 'kim kardashian: hollywood' game on my phone and i am a c-list celebrity
I've never played this game but I can only imagine some sort of side-scroller with porno tapes and black dicks cascading from the ceiling and functioning as some sort of collectible form of in-game currency, and at the end of every level some vapid, out-of-context sound clip from the show is played, creating all sorts of cringe-worthy catchphrases.