I have been a leader, and in a position of power. I can attest to the truth of everything you have said. Bravo!!!I don't know if the mods get paid, but either way, they are running the site and it is up to them to do what they want. That's a fact of life. I might not agree with every decision, and I can sit here and say "I would hve done this or that differently" for any organization starting with PerC and ending with a business run by my closest friends or family. I can look back on how I ran my own band and wish I did things differently. But until you DO IT, you don't know the various pressures involved. The fact is if they are running the site and not being paid, they probably have jobs and other oblications in their lives, and might not have time to sort through every detail. Or there might be decisions involved between mods that other people don't know about. It's true that it might look unfair on the outside, but a decision was made on the inside for a reason.
How many of you have ever been a leader, in charge of anything, or in a position of power? When I was running my apartment or my band, there was a lot of responsibility on my shoulders that other people didn't understand. I felt no need to justify my decisions. An old roommate told me this story recently: Years ago, she was complaining about rent or electric bill, and she told me her complaints. I simply said, "If you don't like my rules, find your own apartment and set the rent however you choose." She told me that this made a tremendous impact on her and made her think about things differently, in her life in general.
I was offering the best rent in the city. I paid out of pocket to build rooms in a loft - about ten grand - so yes, I charged more for the rooms after that, because then the expenses came out CLOSER to even, though still in their favor. It was the nicest rooms and the best deal in the city. Every time a roommate moved out, I had literally 200 emails within ONE HOUR on craigslist because of how good the deal was, and people offering me more money than I asked for, clamoring for the space. So I said to her, "Go ahead and start your own apartment." I knew how good my roommates had it. I was doing all this extra work for free. When someone moved out, I found new people. Everyone was using my furniture. I did most of the cleaning. I was collecting rent, taking care of all the landlord shit, fixing everything. Yeah, I paid less than they did. If they don't like it, they don't need to live there.
For that reason - I am respectful of people who are in charge of things. I'm not saying I agree with every decision or I would never ask questions or share my 'two cents,' but unless you are willing to take the time to do a better job, why complain? You sign up for that site of your own volition, for free, and choose to spend your free time there. You have a problem with the mods? There's nothing wrong with sharing your opinion respectfully, but with the knowledge that in the end, it's up to them. You don't like their decisions, still? Then spend your time building your own site, or ask them if you can become a mod so you can do things your way. Then see how you feel about things going on 'behind the scenes.' Or, you can just quit the site. No harm no foul.
The people I complain about are generally other members. Again, I don't always agree with every decision by the mods, but I appreciate them putting the time in to run the site, and I recognize that I am there of my own volition. I also appreciate that I might not "agree" but I also don't have as much inside info as they do, and I don't know the whole story or the bigger picture. Having been a leader in my own life, I know I didn't have time to explain every factor to every person who disagreed with me. So I have respect, and if I decide I really can't stand the way something is run, and they don't respond to my inquiries and nothing changes, eventually I will leave the community. I am not trapped there, and I enjoy my time there very much - so I don't feel it's my place to complain about the people who work harder than I do, to keep the place going.