Well, people should be more accepting and open minded. That's something that can be learned. I wouldn't suggest to an effeminate gay person that he shouldn't feel bad about being openly rejected by the more ignorant members of society. It's not just that those people have different rules, it's that they are ignorant. If they would actually listen, they would see that there is more to people than surface features. The least others can do is steer clear of those they don't want to associate with and let them be. I don't see the reason for the extra condemnation.If you are happy with what you're doing and can live with the results, by all means continue. But you seem to be unhappy with the results, and simultaneously irked that the people in question have different rules than you do.
I feel the same way about many different interactions of this nature. For instance, I don't like the way people treat criminals and call them "sick fucks" or "pieces of shit" or whatever. It isn't fair to do that. I am lucky to have never had the urge to kill someone or touch kids or whatever. It's ignorant of me to go out of my way to condemn those people and make them feel extra shame. I absolutely think they need to be removed from society and prevented from violating others, but what good does shaming them do?
It didn't surprise me either. Like I said, I thought maybe 1% chance I would get even a neutral reply, but I had to listen to that 1% because that 1% is the only percent that means anything to me.Well, as I said, your approach is like a slap in the face for most people. Sorry that people can't accept your approach, but the reality is that the response you got pretty seems par for the course, it doesn't surprise me. And now you're lonely. Well, sorry that people don't play by your rules. If you want them to respect you and your approach, then you have to accept that they might have a different approach as well.
I've found I typically don't get to have my cake and eat it too, I have to make hard choices about how much compromise I can live with in order to make a connection.
There is no need to be fatalistic, though. I see no point to social interaction at all if it isn't based on expansion and new perspectives. I made this thread because it is something I want people to know about. I figure maybe if something like that happens to them they'll think about it. What else would be the point of us talking right now? I'm here to learn, to broaden myself. Aren't we all? Aren't the great folks among us the ones who didn't simply accept the shitty way they were treated, who stood up and spoke out?