I try not to be mean, and when I am it isn't because I am trying to be. It would probably be best if I was just a mute because I always seem to say something "mean" or "hurtful." People are just too sensitive, in my opinion. :P
Yes, too damn nice. Like, "I'm a wuss," nice too. It sucks. My Fe is out-the-roof for an NT, so like I always feel obligated to be extra polite, and I always want to make sure everyone around me feels included. I'm also deathly afraid of confrontation, which I hate. I think it goes back to childhood...I used to be very curious, and probably more than a little naive (well...I was a child, so I should be allowed some level of naivete!), and other kids (like many kids do) would be mean for no reason and I wouldn't understand it, so as a defense I got into the habit of walking on eggshells in almost all situations. I'm working on it. But I do genuinely like to make people feel comfortable and welcome around me, so my niceness isn't completely due to my fear of of others' reactions.
Not always necissarily "nice" by any means- I'm somewhat loud, outspoken and have a bizzare sense of humor that tends to elicit looks of horror when displayed.
I would consider myself to be a decent person though- I never screw someone over unless I'm absolutley sure that they have it coming- and I always stick by my ethics of treating people with a sense of respect.
Respect does NOT mean that I grovel to them.
Human beings make life so interesting. Do you know that in a universe so full of wonders, they have managed to invent boredom? -Terry Pratchett
Nice? Sure [don’t really care about the definition either, I’m surprisingly comfortable making a blanket, random, unsupported statement].
Just cause I look uninterested doesn’t mean I’m not nice, more to the point just because I am uninterested doesn’t mean I’m not nice. I like people and expect the best in them therefore I treat them accordingly. And you know how it goes... It’s nice to be nice to the nice.
Originally Posted by Beat
I'm an ISTJ. Sue me. @_@
*nicely serves Beat with summons*
Originally Posted by JivinJeffJones
No I don't. But people keep telling me I am. And, sadly, "people" have the deciding vote on this issue.
no. if i help people, it's usually because i wanted to see that person better off for whatever reason. i would say it's mostly selfish because i generally ignore people who tell me to do things, suggesting that it's more about how doing something for another makes me feel than how the other person feels. i give and take away for the false sense of power it affords, like the rich man giving money to a beggar.
when im "myself", most people feel uneasy or think that i dislike them. this is their problem, not mine, so sometimes i can be polite and seem nice if i want to avoid the inefficiency of an adverse emotional reaction from strangers who dont know me well enough to know better
the people who i seem "nice" to are usually the ones i have little respect for. to me, "nice" means "i dont respect you enough to say what i really think since i dont want to deal with whatever problems might arise when you cant deal with it in a mature, rational manner"
"'ive never been nice in my whole life, but ill do my best to be sweet"