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  • i'm an ESTJ & yes i have

    2 4.55%
  • i'm an ESTJ & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an ENTJ & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an ENTJ & no i haven't

    1 2.27%
  • i'm an ESTP & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an ESTP & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an ENTP & yes i have

    1 2.27%
  • i'm an ENTP & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an ESFJ & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an ESFJ & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an ENFJ & yes i have

    2 4.55%
  • i'm an ENFJ & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an ESFP & yes i have

    1 2.27%
  • i'm an ESFP & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an ENFP & yes i have

    1 2.27%
  • i'm an ENFP & no i haven't

    3 6.82%
  • i'm an ISTJ & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an ISTJ & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an INTJ & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an INTJ & no i haven't

    4 9.09%
  • i'm an ISTP & yes i have

    2 4.55%
  • i'm an ISTP & no i haven't

    0 0%
  • i'm an INTP & yes i have

    4 9.09%
  • i'm an INTP & no i haven't

    2 4.55%
  • i'm an ISFJ & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an ISFJ & no i haven't

    1 2.27%
  • i'm an INFJ & yes i have

    4 9.09%
  • i'm an INFJ & no i haven't

    2 4.55%
  • i'm an ISFP & yes i have

    0 0%
  • i'm an ISFP & no i haven't

    3 6.82%
  • i'm an INFP & yes i have

    6 13.64%
  • i'm an INFP & no i haven't

    5 11.36%
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  1. #21
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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    I'm impressed that Rasofy is willing to admit that he's been on both sides.
    People should learn to recognize their shortcomings in order to evolve.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    People should learn to recognize their shortcomings in order to evolve.

    "Once a <whatever>, always a <whatever>" is usually a fallacy.
    I could not agree more. It's a sure sign of an evolved person. Many people can't bear to admit they have flaws at all, let alone try to address them.
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    Yes. I didn't mean to be malicious at the time. Just thought I was being funny and making my friends laugh. But it was bullying.
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    No. I couldn't do it. I went through some extreme bullying and I couldn't bring myself to do it to anyone else. When I got older, I could be quite ugly while trading slaps if I felt it was getting personal and hurt people. Still kinda ashamed of overreacting like that.

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    Yeah. More from a lack of tact than anything. I'd be in the middle of laughing at something stupid that my friend had done, and then realized how hurt they looked. Or I'd only realized after I was playfully roughhousing with someone, that they hadn't taken it as playful, and legitimately felt threatened.

    I got better about this as I got older, and now I'm probably way on the other end of the spectrum, i.e. too careful about not hurting people's feelings.

    (Don't get me wrong. I was a good kid. But I also was in the principal's office at least once per school year. Edit: Also I'm referring primarily to kindergarten through third or fourth grade.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    I've been on both ends.

    I don't think many people can say they've never bullied. Last person I heard saying that used to call a fat colleague by a nickname with blatant bully conotations.
    yep

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    Yes, I have, and I'm not proud of it, especially since I received the other end of it quite a bit.
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    Yes, I bullied two people specifically.

    One was when I was about 7-8 and I was always on the fringe anyhow at school, but there was one boy who rubbed me the wrong way for reasons I couldn't really explain. I used to bait him into fighting me physically all the time, I was disgusting really.

    But I just stopped as I got older and I ended up becoming quite good friends with him instead although I haven't seen him for a few years now. Maybe I realised he was as much on the fringe as I was.

    The second was when I was in my teens, I'd say around 14, a boy who was actually very quiet and quite pleasant to be around, I would hazard he was an IFP type.

    Now at this school I was always bullied verbally by the group, as usual I had no corner or ally. However in reaction I pathetically picked on this boy instead in exactly the same manner in a transference parody of what was being done to me.

    Until one day he just turned to me and said: "Why do you pick on me?"

    I'll admit at the time the question caught me off guard and hit me pretty hard. So it made me realise in an awakening moment exactly what I was doing. It didn't matter that there was no group to back me up as I had rationalised, it was bullying, plain and simple and it was the most pathetic and insideous type.

    I just replied, suddenly seeing clearly for once: "Because I'm a weak person.....sorry"

    I actually pretty much stopped right there and ended up being, once again, his friend until we both finished secondary school and wen't our own ways.

    I cannot recall much more beyond that, there may be more incidents and I'll post them if they come back to me. I think I spent more time on the end of it since then.

    But those two times were important ones to galvanize change inside myself. I apologised to them, but....that doesn't make a damn bit of difference. The emptiness of my own words was never more exposed to me than in those incidents.

    I'm glad I met them for the insights and the hypocrisy they showed me about myself. I should have been friends with them from the start, they were similar to me in many ways.
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    I've never bullied anyone but I have experienced first hand the ways in which power corrupts, I went to a school full of behaviourally challenged people and they made a lot of the kids likely to behave like bullies into hall monitors, myself included, and there was a wave of really authoritarian behaviour, people would just clear the halls or break up fights or manage behaviour with a striaght on physically overpowering approach, totally judge dredd, instead of asking anyone, reasoning with anyone, seeking to persuade anyone of anything.

    I think that whole schooling experience and context gave me an authoritarian mindset which it took me two or three years to fully dispense with.

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    I really thought about this a lot before I responded to the poll. I honestly can't think of a time when I might have bullied someone. I've always felt defensive of people who were bullied. Even when a friend of mine would bully someone, I'd still stick up or them. The absolute used in the question made me hesitant, but I still put no. I've got plenty of other sins an shortcomings, though.
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