@entropie I don't know the whole story but I wouldn’t call what you’re doing moving forward well not emotionally. So I guess I meant moving forward in the sense of really getting involved with someone and getting past the fear of doing that. Although, you may not be ready for that. Regardless I don't think you have to be alone to sort out those feelings do you? Sometimes we learn more about ourselves by seeing through the eyes of others. Just because you're not ready to start a serious relationship doesn't mean you need or have to be alone does it? I’m not saying be a jerk about it but just be honest with those you get involved with about what you’re looking for. There is more than one kind of relationship. As long as you're up front with what your intentions are there’s nothing wrong with just experiencing being with other people.
If you don't want to be alone then don't be. Everyone doesn't find clarity in solitude. Do you think getting involved with multiple women is keeping you from sorting you your emotions? The only potential problem I see is you using your current behavior as a distraction from the feelings you don’t want to but need to deal with. Have you evaluated whether it is the mechanism by which you deal with things or a distraction from dealing with things? I think there is a difference between the two. I also see the fact that you’re aware and somewhat leery of it becoming a distraction as a sign that you probably are dealing with it opposed to being distracted from it but only you can truly know that.