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    Senior Member Bamboo's Avatar
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    Default Does buying things make you uncomfortable?

    I don't have any money troubles. I don't spend more than I need to, not even close, and I live a very thrifty life style. I buy clothing from the thrift shop, I fix my own car, I don't eat out much. There is a thread here on typc 'post your recent purchase' or something along those lines, and I realized that aside from food and gas, I hadn't bought anything in months - I went through my bank statements, and I had a couple of drawstring bags and a bottle of chainsaw lubricant for about 4 months.

    Otherwise, before that the rest was car parts and tools, which is pretty much the only thing I do spend money on. I bought a pretty nice 3/8 drive US made torque wrench for about $90-100. Just lately I bought a ultrasonic cleaner - which is close to paying for itself. I bought some more tools from a private seller. And I'm on ebay and amazon now and I've realized i've put entirely too much thought into what I'm buying. It's taken me days to just press "buy". I could easily drop 300 bucks and it wouldn't effect anything, but I'm still really hesitant.

    Perhaps I have good reasons why I do this, but: does anyone else find it difficult to buy things?
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    I don't know if I have difficulty buying things... but I have difficulty paying FULL PRICE for things. I'm very big on coupons, and can't really stand to pay for anything that isn't on sale in one way or another... I think this comes from how I was brought up, and my family situation, but that's just guessing...

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    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/27/yo...shortcuts.html

    TAKE my younger son to an ice cream parlor or restaurant if you really want to torture him. He has to make a choice, and that’s one thing he hates. Would chocolate chip or coffee chunk ice cream be better? The cheeseburger or the turkey wrap? His fear, he says, is that whatever he selects, the other option would have been better.

    Gabriel is not alone in his agony. Although it has long been the common wisdom in our country that there is no such thing as too many choices, as psychologists and economists study the issue, they are concluding that an overload of options may actually paralyze people or push them into decisions that are against their own best interest.
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    No.

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    @Bamboo, you're an ISTP, right? Because that sounds like Ti dominance at work.

    Look at these two INTPs trying to shop:

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    Definitely not, I love buying things as long as it isn't an impulse buy.
    I really like cats and food.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EJCC View Post
    @Bamboo, you're an ISTP, right? Because that sounds like Ti dominance at work.

    Look at these two INTPs trying to shop:
    Make that an INTP and an INTJ, and you're back to "GOOD" (even if both of us are nerds).

    When I buy something, especially something important, I do want to be sure I am making the best choice, but that is why I research what I am buying, for specifications, suppliers, and cost. When I finally buy, I have reasonable confidence that I am making, if not the best choice, then at least a very good one which I will not regret. I have rarely had a purchase turn out otherwise. As for cost, I don't mind paying good money for something worthwhile. I resent paying more than I have to, though. By that I mean that I don't want to find it elsewhere, or next week, for 30% less. I understand the price of some things does go down over time, and account for that in making purchasing decisions.
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    Sometimes I like something and can afford it but I don't "$50 like it" (or $100 or whatever). It can feel like a waste to spend more on something than you value or need it. I've spent months going back to a music shop over and over, looking at a CD I want, but not buying it because it costs maybe $5 more than I want to spend on it. It's really stupid. I've never actually bought a car or a mobile; I just use hand-me-downs from other people. I'd really like a nice fancy car or phone but I don't want it bad enough to spend money on that.

    @Bamboo do you buy car parts and tools for simply practical reasons (ie. you need them for something particular) or because you enjoy using them?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    Make that an INTP and an INTJ, and you're back to "GOOD" (even if both of us are nerds).
    Oh yeah, exactly. My INTP dad and I are the same way -- a "nerd + non-nerd" team, not because I'm not nerdy, and not because I don't care about doing research in advance of the purchase to makes sure I'm buying The Right Thing, but because I'm just a lot better at Making Big Decisions than he is. I think there's something about INTPs, where they don't like seeing all their options go away. Dunno if that's Ti or Ti+Ne.


    I guess I forgot to reply in more detail to the OP. I love buying things; it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable. I especially love making purchases that I've spent time researching, or spent time comparison-shopping for in some other regard*, because it feels like a reward for all my hard work. I'm also very careful about making Big Money Purchases (and I'm also a combination of stingy and reasonably well-off), so I generally don't give myself reason to worry about that.

    *e.g. trying on a gazillion dresses to try and find The Perfect Gown For Senior Formal (which I was just doing the other day)
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    Not uncomfortable, but I tend to analyze the pros/cons so much that I have an easier time not buying anything.

    I see it more in terms of least resistance.
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