How long have you thought yourself as being physically attractive and what is it about yourself that you find attractive?
I've never had a stable self-image in regards to my looks. Since my twenties i've had a sense of being pleasant looking, but not a sense of being sexually provocative in my appearance. As a teen i could occasionally pull off feeling pretty like a flower. I had long eyelashes, but quite the skinny stem.
How long have you thought yourself as being physically unattractive, and what is it about yourself that you find unattractive?I struggled with this as i entered puberty. It was severe and some type of image dimorphism. I would get overwhelmed feeling really hideous and couldn't stand being in my own skin. I had moments of zero self-esteem where i felt like i had no worth and merely took up space.
Do you have issues with your figure, your face, etc.?
I was never terribly voluptuous, and as a adolescent i thought that no guy would ever want to see my body. I figured i would always be alone. It wasn't rational as i was cute, just a little skinny, but still cute.
How important are looks?
Society does seem to make a lot of snap judgements based on looks. I think though, the appearance of having money makes up for ugly features in that regard.
How important is it to feel or not feel physically attractive?I think it is fundamentally important to feel physically attractive, but in a simpler deeper way than the media presents. We should feel comfortable in our own skin and be able to feel like our physical affection will feel really good to the person we love. I've come a long way from the distorted perceptions of my past, but it wasn't comparing myself to others or trying to match the media's ideal that helped. It was just taking time to enjoy existing in my own body. It helps to just enjoy the warm sun on your skin, or savor a good chocolate chip cookie, the drink in a kiss, and to feel the cool breeze of the air when you run. It also helps to have someone *see* you and appreciate unique qualities about you. You don't have to look like an ideal if someone you love thinks your profile has a beautiful line, or that you have soft hair, pretty hands, or a well set belly button. It isn't necessary for a person to possess every ideal feature, but it is important to really *own* what is beautiful and unique about ourself. I'm still growing in this direction.