I suppose this thread is here simply because of something that happened 10 minutes ago.
My mother decided to urge me to clean my room. In my opinion it isn't excessively untidy or dirty. But anyhow I was childish and argued with her a bit about the necessity as she put it, whereas I saw it as a want from her for it to be clean.
She said I needed it to be clean and tidy, I said she wanted it clean and tidy, there is a difference. Then she pulled her favourite card on me; the fact that I have asthma. Now I didn't want to argue anymore because it was a pathetic insignificant incident.
But as she said that, I realised my perspective on the situation is that she claims it is for the benefit of my asthma that the room should be clean and tidy, there is a point there yes, but at the same time I know what she is like about mess and I couldn't help but consider that statement a lie to cover up the fact that she just wants it tidy for her own preferences.
Now to her she is thinking of my health, to me she is thinking of herself and her preferences, while disguising them as kindness. I wondered if asthma was removed from the picture, would she be able to argue any case at all?
And bearing in mind if I were to post pictures of my room you might even be hard pressed to even see the mess she spots.
She is no cleanliness tyrant, but she is fairly obsessive. However then upon considering some more; I realised that the style in which I had argued, while correct to me, was also immature and defensive. Perhaps my mum needs that control, to anchor her in reality and who am I to deny her that? After all she is hardly bullish about it, it's never a heated argument.
The real point, though, is that this reminded me of my fascination with perspectives. How something can be turned on it's head and it immediately changes into something completely different.
One person perceives benefit the other perceives oppression. Of course this is not a new idea, nor is it one that I think would interest too many people, being as how they have probably already considered it and more.
But sometimes it is nice to run with the impulses.