It can be hard. I'm almost done raising the kids, which has had it's hard moments, but mostly isn't too bad. I mean, even with the stuff that's kind of awful you love them, so it helps. Marriage seems to be a crap shoot, but I've been lucky in love. What has mostly been the worst thing is being poor. Being poor makes everything harder and I find despite my inclination as an NF to shun materialism, that having a comfortable life is important to me.
Right now we aren't doing too bad and I am feeling that life is pretty easy and, mostly, I am content. My kids are fairly independent, but still live at home where I can see that they have what they need and are safe. My husband and I have gotten most of the rough edges worn off in our relationship and are comfortable together, but still want each other and enjoy each other's company. We usually have the money to get a meal out and buy a book if we want to. I never really thought I'd be this lucky.
But I do fear how things will be as my husband and I age. Health problems are virtually inevitable and we do not have adequate provisions for retirement. The odds of my being widowed are pretty high and that is the flip side to a long, happy marriage: eventually, they still leave you or you leave them. I don't know how I will cope with that or, if he survives me, how he will. We've kind of grown together like a tree around a fence post.
But there isn't much sense borrowing trouble. I try to enjoy the easy while it lasts.
But here's some love for you from the nineties: