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    Default How to introduce yourself without mentioning your job, educational background, etc .

    As a male in Western society, many of us feel defined by our occupations or our societal roles like father, brother, husband etc . . .

    I'm guessing women do this as well when introducing themselves. Some of the most common introductions I've seen are:

    a). Hi, my name is .... I am an etcetera major at so and so school.

    b). Hi my name is engineerasaurus and I work at Intel as an engineer.

    What are some clever and less than boring ways you found to introduce yourself to others that do not include what you do with your time at the moment?

    Other common ones I hear are people telling personality quirks about themselves or introducing themselves by their astrological sign. I personally think those are cliche as well.

    I have been travelling a lot lately and meeting new people from all over the country and I am tired of giving the same old speech.

    Have fun posting some of the cool ways you use to introduce yourself to others. I am just tired of being asked or asking the same question of, hey where are you from and what do you do?

    Are there other things that are more cool to use to define ourselves to others?

    Thanks guys and sorry if the post isn't clear.

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    It's odd that we ask one another, "so, X, what do you do?" and people generally mean "what is your occupation?", or, if you're a student, "what you're studying?" It's such an open question; you can do a lot more with it than that. You could think of as many answers as you like: "I parasail", "I maintain homeostasis", "I make scrambled eggs on Sundays", etc. etc.

    Perhaps offer something you like doing, or some detail about your day... anecdotal, something you were thinking about earlier, etc. It's pretty easy to find common ground that way. Try throwing in something absurd.

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    Or get a secret name like Slim Shady
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    Hi, my name is .... and I'm living life.

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    My career is pretty indicative of who I am, my personality, and so on. It's nice and convenient because it's easy to open with. So, for me, it's a good lead-in.

    Points of commonality form great introductions, too, but they're often contextual. For example, if we're at a party, surely we're both there for a reason.

    I'll often let the other person speak first so that I can figure out what resonates with me and where to go. You can also get a conversation going about something unique that you observe about them--a piece of jewelry they're wearing or something of that nature. Whatever makes them stand out is usually pretty meaningful to them.

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    man, I love these ideas. Please keep em coming.

    So here is the silly kicker. My brothers were watching Anger Management, and there was a scene where Jack Nicholson, asked Adam Sandler who are you. Sandler first started with his job and Nicholson said, no, not your job, who are you? He then talked about where he's from and got rebuffed again, and then about his personality and got rebuffed once more. So it got me wondering, what are non cliche ways to introduce your self. I know its silly, but I don't like being pigeon holed and your ideas are great. Thanks guys.

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    Yeah, I usually just say, "Hi, I'm S***" (that's my name haha). I usually cannot say more before they ask a question, and it seems that question is usually either "What to you do?" or "You live around here?"

    I never talk about my kids until later. I don't even usually give out my real career. I'm just generally as vague as possible about my demographics. I prefer to talk about ideas, versus real world details.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CleanCuteNFP View Post
    As a male in Western society, many of us feel defined by our occupations or our societal roles like father, brother, husband etc . . .

    I'm guessing women do this as well when introducing themselves. Some of the most common introductions I've seen are:

    a). Hi, my name is .... I am an etcetera major at so and so school.

    b). Hi my name is engineerasaurus and I work at Intel as an engineer.

    What are some clever and less than boring ways you found to introduce yourself to others that do not include what you do with your time at the moment?

    Other common ones I hear are people telling personality quirks about themselves or introducing themselves by their astrological sign. I personally think those are cliche as well.

    I have been travelling a lot lately and meeting new people from all over the country and I am tired of giving the same old speech.

    Have fun posting some of the cool ways you use to introduce yourself to others. I am just tired of being asked or asking the same question of, hey where are you from and what do you do?

    Are there other things that are more cool to use to define ourselves to others?

    Thanks guys and sorry if the post isn't clear.
    I'm pretty reserved, so it's quite rare that I'll just initiate contact with random strangers. I tend to be the person approached by the other, & of course these formalities always arise.

    I like @Maddy 's response. It's kind of like with acting, in a way. All about exploring where and how far you choose to take things. It's what makes something more interesting, engaging.

    Humor is a wonderful social lubricant, as well.

    When I'm out in the city, say, watching local bands or going to some kind of art show, etc.. and friends of friends of other people approach me, & start talking, it always tumbles into the "so what's your major/what do you DO?," shtick. Initially it's commentary about the immediate environment- or who/what you're there to see - smalltalk to get the ball rolling, gauge for receptiveness in terms of continuing conversation. But then they ask the occupational question, with expectant eyes, and my mind sort of glazes over, at that point. The adherence to social protocol. I don't hold it against them, I just, like you, CC, grow weary of it.

    I do always answer their question [keep it brief & general]/ask in return, because it is expected/"polite," but afterward, I have on occasion immediately segued into some kind of offhand jokes about social protocol, like, about our current conversation, about our interaction. If they want to know me, then they're getting it. I'm exploring dynamics with them, if I can. Sometimes you see a flicker in their expectant eyes. You just shook up the lab-rats in their brain, running the same old maze they always do, awaiting their same old cheese. Their responses to this shift in the maze usually offer more materials to continue building outward in any direction we wish- either sharing anecdotes of other interactions or personal views about human interaction in general.. it can spiderweb out to any topic. Sometimes the chats only last a few minutes, sometimes an hour or more. There's always some new insight to come away with, on both ends, if you look for it.

    Eventually we end up returning to those initial Intro Formalities, but not til we've wandered through the wormhole & back.
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    nice replies

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    just say: "Cut, CleanCut".

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