Pure chemical attraction at 1st, but with the extra pow that comes with significant extensional compatibility. That's what I believed for a long time I wanted, but these days, it seems so impossible. It takes a lot to really engage me, I am really picky in some ways and shallow in others... I feel terrible for any girl who is going to try to fill that role in my life... I am a complicated person and things I do surprise me often but no more than a "meh" reaction. And my demands and expectations (I have been working on this part of myself) are usually high... I cant help it. I can float in the world with its illusions and straw men crap, but it would be nice to know someone its easy to come home to and just be real with I guess. In some weird primal male thinking, that's what that person would feel like, like coming home.