No rules, no implications, no fishing for information, no stupid pet theories, just want to hear how people love in their own different ways. And please don't ask me what I mean, since if I answer for you, this is pointless.
And please don't make me regret this. Guard can come down, maybe, I can answer too. But I certainly won't go first.
And Fair Warning: And I don't know why I'm asking or really care. So if anyone is going to assign some motivation or intent of mine to making this thread judging from past posts and harp on me about it, then get the fock out or please get a life. Alright, good, thanks. All the disclaimers out of the way.
So much hostility in an inquiry about love. But it's a good question. I listen. I pay attention. I am willing to negotiate. I put others ahead of myself. These are all ways I show love. But the secret is to make fried chicken. It seems to bring out the very best in the people I love.
I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.
In general... trying to understand who they are and what they need to be happy, and trying to use that knowledge to make them happy.
Romantically... In the morning when we wake up, lots of kisses and hugs and playfulness. Keeping track of his expression, his body language, his tone. Being silly and making him laugh. Trying to provide him with the things he needs and hates buying for himself to make him comfortable and happy. Demonstrating with words and actions that I unconditionally accept him. Complementing him and telling him how attractive he is to me. Holding his hand, and kissing him when he opens doors for me. Getting coffee with him even when I'm not really interested because I know how happy it makes him. Getting excited about whatever he's doing because it stirs some kind of passion deep in him. Trying to understand his hopes and dreams and fears. Encouraging him on his way to his goals. Pushing him outside his box just the tiniest bit so he can grow positively (and thanking him when he pushes me just outside my box too). Giving him my blessing to have a fun night out with his friends. Trying to establish good relationships with his family and friends. Being proud of who he is and appreciating that he is so devoted to me.
by NOT going for getting my way all of the time... stepping out of that drive in order to find out what someone else wants and likes and making an effort to give them that
for me, loving is compromising- putting up with the boredom of a football game because he's been excited about it all week, or making corn for a side at dinner (I'm not a big fan)- also, listening to the other person's side of things as well
I'm not much of one for verbal expressions of love- words are cheap to me somehow
Human beings make life so interesting. Do you know that in a universe so full of wonders, they have managed to invent boredom? -Terry Pratchett
I give people/animals my time and play with them, mostly. I'm not real good at the other kinds or maybe I just don't like the other kinds as much. I noticed kids I've briefly taken care of end up liking me a lot because of this. I wish most parents spent more time playing with their kids, instead of directing them, but I'm sure it's not always so easy.
Some people find it strange that I talk to animals, but I'm pretty sure that they can read the tone of my voice and judge my intent that way. Some animals will chatter back. I think this is why I like animals more than people because they let me play with them more and seem to enjoy it more. It's fun to see an animal happy that I'm giving it attention; people too often get annoyed, like they are being asked to do something silly or a waste of time.
Originally Posted by ceecee
So much hostility in an inquiry about love.
I know... But sometimes a little hostility can stop someone from being offensive, if they don't want to add fuel to a fire? Plus, I didn't want this to become about myself and have no one really say anything themselves. This has been pretty nice/interesting/good so far?
I love by understanding someone inside and out...literally. I love by getting a detailed brief of their physical and psychological ticks, and I do what puts them at ease, keeps them on their toes, and makes what they do unconsciously a workable material. I help them be the best them they can be by cutting away at the bad and bolstering the good.
I try to spend as much time as possible with the people I love.Being n the same room isn't enough we have to have a meaningful interaction. I learn everything about that person. I need to know them inside and out. I also do what ever I can to make them happy even if that means doing things I find boring or don't necessarily want to do. I sacrifice my own feelings wants or needs to make sure my S/O is happy and I feel guilty if I don't.
"Re-examine all that you have been told... dismiss that which insults your soul."_Walt Whitman