So...I am not sure this has much to do with personality, but for shits and giggles...I am INTP & my boy is ENFJ. He understands me like no other has ever. We are both musicians, and have had SO much in common ever since the first moment we met. I honestly thought he was my "soulmate," and I usually don't even believe in that.
Anyhow, I found out about a year ago, that he was on hardcore drugs. We broke up, and LOTS of bad things happened, including him completely flipping out when I wanted out of the relationship. I wanted out b/c I found out about the drug use and ALOT of lies he had told. I was completely broken, but I tried to move on. He overdosed in April, and went into rehab, which was the one thing I told him would possibly keep me around. Of course, that happened after we were no longer on speaking terms. I have since started speaking to him again, and now at this point he stays with me alot, and we are back together technically. I am trying not to go into too many details, but his drug problems have caused ALOT more casualties in his life than just our relationship, and I am basically having to carry him at this point.
He doesn't really have much of an income, and can't seem to find a job, and to top it off has no license either. I have never been one to date anyone with these types of problems, but our connection is quite profound. I don't know if I have the patience and forgiveness in my heart to keep dealing with all of these problems. Not to mention, I believe he is out-of-balance, and does not use his "thinking" well at all. I know that it is a shadow function for ENFJ, but I believe he is stuck in an Fe rut, and is unable to use his thinking at all.