You don't "win" at the internet and life is too short. If, at the end of life, I am given a print out of how I spent my time... I already know how horrified I will be to see the months spent /played at internet forums. I don't want a subcategory depicting how much time I wasted in arguing with someone when neither of us is going to change our minds or be enlightened by the other. Pass.
You are a wise bunny.
Originally Posted by Haight
To the OP: Never.
I'm delighted to hear it because:
Originally Posted by HelenOfTroy
I'm very conflict avoidant so i am loath to report anyone.
The only time i have done so was when a person joined the forum specifically to harass and try to manipulate me personally. I later reported them to the police irl as i felt they possibly posed a real threat.
There is one forum member who has sent me numerous reps and asked for my phone number and i know they have done so with at least three other female members. I have not reponded to a single one and still it persists....with others too. I have not reported them but if it does continue much longer i may end up doing so.
And I know how much you hate that crap going on on your forum.
I like to give people a chance to resolve their issues rather than get report happy.
I don't. Let them resolve their "issues" elsewhere.
Seriously. Report that shit. Think of it this way: by not doing so you are giving more consideration to the offender than his "targets".
Originally Posted by kelric
I'm not sure I'd label it "fear", but yes, there are definitely cases where I decide not to post in certain threads - on topics that interest me - because I don't want to get involved with either the drama or the aggressive tone of the discussion. I'll even go so far as to spend a fair bit of time writing before deciding "bah, why bother -- I don't need to listen to the storm this would cause". It's not simply an issue of disagreement -- there are posters here with whom I disagree about many things, especially on the politics subforum (PureMercury, DiscoBiscuit) with whom I enjoy discussing/debating our differing views. But the tone of those conversations is generally civil, if fervent - and if it turns sour, I disengage from the discussion. Short answer? Yes.
Honestly, there have been threads that I have avoided joining in on due the tone of discussion where you've been involved. However, I can't recall many, if any, instances where you (or Andante, for that matter) have been primarily responsible for the descent into the tone that drives me away from participating. Your participation in those instances tends to be more reactive than one of instigation. Once the tone has devolved however, I'm reluctant to join in on either side (or as tends to be the case, in the middle).
Thank you for your honesty.
Can I just say that if anyone PMs/reps me to say "I'd rather you didn't engage me on the forum." I will respect your wishes. A reverse "ignore", if you will.
Originally Posted by Ivy
Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.