A month ago I moved away from my childhood home, friends and family for a new job. It isn't too far away (approximately 1.5 hours), but far enough for me to be unable to expect to maintain the life I left. My girlfriend of 9 months was a big part of the moving process. She helped me pick out my place, pick out my suits for the new job, talked with me about our plans moving forward. She was also planning to transition to the same city (something she'd decided independently of me), and much of my mental roadmap included her presence. On Friday, much to my surprise, she ended things.
The relationship with her was never particularly serious, as it came a bit after I broke up with my girlfriend of five years. However, we got along extremely well, and I cannot think of a single instance when I had an unpleasant experience with her. We never fought, had wonderful conversations, and I fell in love with her. Now, I am finding that my ability to cope with this breakup is sorely lacking, likely because my support network, my life really, is non existent.
I need to find a way to cope with all these changes. Each one taken alone doesn't seem so bad, and I understand that it may seem like I'm being overly dramatic about my circumstances. My life isn't bad, and I have a bright future. But, taken together, these circumstances place an emotional burden on me that I'm finding difficult to overcome alone. I need social interaction and distraction to get over the breakup, but I need friends to do that. To find friends, I need to be motivated to go out and meet people, and be a person who is happy and fun to be around, but this is difficult when I'm recovering from losing someone I care about. I need to focus on my work to make a good impression, but all these issues are a distraction. Tough stuff.
For those of you who have undoubtably gone through worse, how did you do it? I need advice.