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    when you ask for advice, are you receptive to others' opinions or do you typically seek validation for choices you have already made?


    i've noticed lately i'm in the latter category, though maybe both.

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    I've generally already made up my mind when I go to others for their opinions, but it can be helpful to hear my options from another perspective, or to double check that I haven't failed to consider any alternatives or loopholes.

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    bit of both, use to get others to validate more though
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    I'm terrible at taking advice. One of my biggest failings. If I haven't asked for it, it's like pulling teeth for me to accept it (rather than just smile and give the impression of accepting it, which is damn hard work in itself.) Just being advised to do something is enough to make me dig in my heels and not want to do it, even if I wanted to before. I have to get myself into the right headspace before asking advice if I really mean to take it on board.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jontherobot View Post
    when you ask for advice, are you receptive to others' opinions or do you typically seek validation for choices you have already made?


    i've noticed lately i'm in the latter category, though maybe both.
    Both, depending on the situation. Sometimes I'm faced with an unfamiliar situation where I have to make a decision and I don't have alot of experience and both choices seem equally good or bad. Then I will ask advice, being completely receptive to others opinions because I don't have a clue myself.

    Other times, I've already 'made up my mind' but need to get buy-in from others because I know my decision could impact them. For example, if I'm moving to another city, that would impact my family because I might not get to see them as often so I want to assure them that I'll still be in touch with them enough and they can see the benefits of my move.
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