@Etherea Thank you! Well, they didn't really pad the critiques, I'm sure it would have gone down a lot easier, but in the end the message is the same anyway. I can suck it up I suppose!
@Phoenix - you're right, the core emotion of my instinctive triad is anger, and I guess like a 1, the anger I feel is directed inwards most of the time(now that I've worked on myself enough to accept that I can allow myself to feel angry), which makes me really hard on myself, and I think the shame I feel is an extension of that - not living up to the standard that I set for myself. or something like that. It made so much sense in my mind but when I see it in writing it feels really weird.
@Fluffywolf that piece is commissioned and the client wanted polka dot dress, so I drew polka dot dress and thank you! I am actually looking into that field of work, and in fact I'm working on a children's book illustration project right now.
@Jennifer Thank you so much! This is what i've been doing, too. To weed out feedback that's just indicative of preference and to the ones that I think is....well, uh, 'objective' for a lack of better word. For example, criticism about bright colours would belong in the former category and criticism about perspective & values belongs to the latter.
@phobik that's precisely it. Now I just need to put it to practice
@Manifold Thank you!
Thing is, I know that no matter how 'good' I am, I have room for improvement and I probably always will no matter how much better I get. It's a constantly evolving process. I also know that external feedback is invaluable because, well, being in the centre of it I may blind to so many things that are obvious to a third party observer. I also know that their critique isn't an attack against me or my art but just how I can improve. I think the biggest obstacle I'm facing is that the ability to REALLY INTEGRATE that understanding into my self. For me, there are two layers of understanding: the outer layer and the inner layer, and the inner layer is where I really personalize and really *feel* it. Gee I don't know if anyone's following here...:S I'ts kinda hard for me to explain it better. maybe @Stephen could?
When I made that thread, I was like, well this is a great chance to flex my Te and be objective about the feedback that I get, but when it really happened I was like.....wellllllllllll whuuuuh no i wasn't!!!