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  • Weeks, months, makes no difference to me.

    1 2.63%
  • Two weeks is pushing it.

    3 7.89%
  • A week

    6 15.79%
  • Like fish, no more than three days

    19 50.00%
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Thread: House Guests

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    And I guess it would be bad form to ask them to spend some time in a hotel?
    (Since their plane tickets probably cost so much.)

    It's just that when my in-laws would come out, they would be cognizant of all that. They avoided causing discomfort to us and put themselves up if they were staying extra time, so as not to put us in the position of having to tell them they'd overstayed their welcome.

    But with an overseas trip, I can understand the reluctance/inability to go that route, it might just be a "suck it up" moment...um, month... or something.

    Two weeks is a long time, dear... You're amazing for keeping up with it.
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    Heh. Yeah. Last time my in-laws stayed several days with us I blew up at their foster daughter (a teenager who was being very disrespectful to my MIL) so badly that I scared my MIL, a big, tough probably INTJ woman. I think she is still kind of scared of me and that was probably six years ago.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Geoff View Post
    I'm guessing because they've gone all the way from the UK to visit their son, grandkids etc in America!
    Likely so.

    Two weeks still seems incredible to me.

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    I really like having roommates -- who are already good friends of mine (couldn't stand the idea of having roommates I don't know very well) -- but other house guests need to GTFO within 3 days or so.

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    Yes, they're Limey's parents and yes they primarily came here to see their grandkids. We said last year that next time we'd put them up in a hotel but since they were going to stay with the kids while Limey and I took a mini vacation that they could just stay on since I felt it would be rude to kick them out upon our return.

    Wolf I need a lot of space too. Always hated the thought of roommates so I never had one. If I don't have my own space and time for myself I will start picking and deconstructing the unfortunate person/s who are invading it. I don't enjoy being this way but it's the way I've always been. I actually feel a bit bad especially after my ESFJ neighbor told me that I should be enjoying having our children's grandparents visit, etc. I'd like a side order of guilt please. *eyeroll*

    Next time we all get together we really need our own space. Either that, or I need some good meds.
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    Three days is more than enough. The only exception I can think of is that my sister spent her summers with us all four years of college, and I never got sick of her. Probably because being with her is not taxing. My mother-in-law stayed with us for a week once. I was so grateful to have her here because she helped with the kids and house A LOT, but I couldn't just kick back in my own space. I felt like I had to be "on" at all times.
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    We have a very small house and didn't have a guest room until recently when our son went away to college. My mom and sister each stayed for a week (separately) years ago, and it was taxing for all of us. A cousin and her daughter came for a visit and moved to a neighbor's temporarily vacant house after a few days.

    Even before kids we hosted a friend and his wife for a few days and that too was a challenge for all of us. The bottom line is it's hard to share our little space. I love to visit with out-of-town guests, go sightseeing with them, go out to dinner, etc., but having to be on all the time is very wearing, and falling over them and their stuff gets old fast.

    We stayed with close friends in Texas for a week, but they have a huge house with a separate MIL unit and our kids are best friends. Even so, they were glad to have their house and lives back.

    To answer the OP, one to two days would be the best. Staying off-site, even better.

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    I don't mind houseguests as long as I'm not responsible for them or stay in my room or rude or over stay their welcome. I tend to be laid back about most things and I can live with most anyone I do get annoyed but not to the point where its much trouble. The only thing I really need is my own bed room and possibly ear plugs.
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    It depends on the person. If it's a friend that I actively invited to stay, that I know I click with, then I can have them indefinitely. It's like playing all the time. If it's someone I'm obligated to entertain, a week is tops. If I have to give up my bedroom, three days is max. If they are very loud and energetic and wear me out, two or three days, max. If they have obnoxious kids that they refuse to keep under control, 1 day is max.

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    It really depends on who it is Sometimes an hour is pushing it, sometimes a couple of weeks is nothing. Some you wish they would stay forever.

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