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    everyone's parents are ridiculous to a degree, how are yours ridiculous? My dad insists everything should stay the same and never change, only wants to eat some form of beef and mashed potatoes and gravy if something doesn't cost the same as when he was in his 20s it's too much money (keep mind my dad's 64)
    my mom complains about being totally worn out and how she can't do anything than goes and reorganizes the whole upstairs of the house, including moving boxes full of stuff and furniture
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Mine are ridiculous in that they're still married even though they have no affection towards each other anymore.

    In addition to other ways that they're ridiculous... I was actually gonna make a thread about this in a little while.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    everyone's parents are ridiculous to a degree, how are yours ridiculous? My dad insists everything should stay the same and never change, only wants to eat some form of beef and mashed potatoes and gravy if something doesn't cost the same as when he was in his 20s it's too much money (keep mind my dad's 64)
    my mom complains about being totally worn out and how she can't do anything than goes and reorganizes the whole upstairs of the house, including moving boxes full of stuff and furniture
    This would be ridiculous even if they weren't parents.
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    @FunnyDigestion - same situation here, and it's "for the kid's sake"...what does that even mean anymore.

    My father is an ENTJ and my mother an ISFJ. Before I was born there was chaos and dysfunction, to the extent my father carried a firearm to "get a point across" to my mother that he knew she was cheating on him. They both came from warped backgrounds in one way or another. My mother just wasn't there growing up, then she'd resurrface and establish some rule, some order, and we're all going, "thanks mom", because my father would heed her order to please her, at our expense. then she'd disappear in depression or something and all the order collapsed and we ran around like chickens with our heads cut off. For instance, we could stay up late with our father, eat from the kitchen late, watch movies, regulate ourselves, be independent to the unhealthy extreme. She shows up, and kitchen closes at 8PM, bedtime is 9:30PM, etc.

    My dad gets neurotic and starts bleaching counter tops to clean because he's anxious about something else going on, so you wake thinking some attack has occurred involving a bleach bomb because you can't open your eyes or breathe.

    Him and my mother, super religious, my dad more legalistically and my mother spiritually. I grew up with panic attacks of demons, end times, etc because everything was in extremes. They always, and still do, believe "the end is near", and for me, an S, who couldn't give a rat's anus about the future in regards to "the end", being fed that crap, lost my friggin' marbles. He hoards tanks of water and food for "the end". She reads between the lines too much, sees meaning in things that she should just take for what it is.

    Next thing you know we have 8 cats in one house. No she doesn't hoard, they're well maintained, happy, etc. but the police were going to trap and wrap 'em, for good and she had an emotional bond to them stronger than a mother and her infant, so here we are, 8 cats. One day, I had to close up the house before bed and forgot one little window that was open for the summer upstairs. A couch was blocking it, never saw it, didn't think of it. Next morning I hear the cussing, the slamming, the freaking out like a lord of the flies nursery - one cat clawed through the screen and three cats ran away. I felt inside, they'd come back if they wanted, if not, they were wild enough anyways and would make it. she blamed me for plotting this, for hating her, that she's unloved, and I was punished. I informed her that if I wanted to let them escape, I would have just left the window without a screen open on the lower level - no jumping, no working, gone. More time in the hole for me. The emotional explosiveness of my mother and the logical commanding of my father were in extremes and each child has ended with some OCD.

    I'm not saying it's a nightmare, I had and have good times, but some weird, weird memories. They don't share the same bedroom, haven't since my brother was conceived and loathe each other; he makes death threats and she ignores him, both pulling the trigger on each others weakness'. I have the booze stashed away for when they separate. It's like passing a kidney stone.

    As parents, it's a mix of rejection and not being there but expecting their children to have it figured out. The constant, "I had to eat glass to get where I am today!" bullshit, but no effort to show anyone anything. Then they evaluate your life and reject it, as if they were influencing it for the better? No. My father makes large figures for his income, meanwhile my mother works in retail. They tell me I need to go to school. I cannot work full time and go to school. It's priorities. I have to pay for my leased car. The government says until I'm 24, my dad should pay because he makes large figures; but my father is old world, and disbelieves in supporting me for my education. Because of his figures and military history, I was bumped off his healthcare at 21 also. they nag me until I'm drinking to sleep at night to get healthcare, go to school, be with so and so, get a real job. But they aren't realists. They can make long term plans, but they suck. I don't blame them for anything, but they don't think practically and are living in such disorder, dysfunction and darkness for them to lecture anyone on how it should be, is defunct. And like a broken record at this rate. My father also "complains" about my medical bills in the past when they subjected me to medical evaluation over and over and over, being a minor with little to no say, pills this pills that. When I was 18 I quit it all, so they say it is a waste and I lied. My brother has a pneumothorax, collapsed lung. He walks around for 12 hours complaining of pain, as it progress'. He's never anxious, started displaying extreme anxiety. i returned from work, my father arrives and comes inside leaving my brother in the car. I go to my brother and saw he was pale and weak, he told me he had to move slowly to get in. I asked my father why he hadn't taken him to urgent care, his medical coverage is elite and it's up the street so we don't have to go through this; his response was he didn't know, assumed my brother needed attention. It resulted in my brother collapsing and soiling himself that 911 was called, even then my father resisted it, wanting to "drive him to the ER"..and..wait? He's detached. Wants no obligations and it's been this way all the time. My brother apparently had bleeding in the lung, his entire chest cavity had filled with blood and he lost 55% of his blood, he was on the brink of death because time was wasted at home, because he needed attention. So you'd think that incident would have taught my father; now he yells at my brother and tells us we can't get food because of my brothers hospital bill. We grow up ashamed of having medical needs, or any need for that matter.

    I want to know where his money is going. Because there's nothing showing up here.

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    Mine are pretty stable, I guess... They used to be a little too strict, but now that all their kids are technically adults now, they've loosened up a bit. They do well considering they both came out of dysfunctional homes. They definitely have done better for us, ten fold, than they ever received.

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    Watching my father interact with individuals outside of the family is like watching someone continue to talk while their breasts are sticking out of their blouse. It is awkward and ridiclous.

    Watching my mother talk to stranger is like watching an 80s special on FOBs, and how you must be nice to them no matter how they say thing.
    These things can make my day at times. Especially when they're incidents like my mother saying 'Viagra falls' and not understanding why I laugh.

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    My parents are ridiculous because they love me even when I don't meet their expectations.

    Ah, if only you loved me like my parents. If only you loved me, when I am off topic.

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    Not to be contrary on purpose but... I've never thought my parents are ridiculous. I found them both quite fascinating. I always thought of them as their own people and they happened to have my brother and sister and I. And that that was really fortunate for us. Not to say there weren't quirks and things I didn't always understand, (but I was a little observer so I enjoyed trying to figure things out).

    Yeah, I admired the heck out of my parents and I just really like who they both are. <3
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexus View Post
    @FunnyDigestion - same situation here, and it's "for the kid's sake"...what does that even mean anymore.

    My father is an ENTJ and my mother an ISFJ.
    Wow that was a story-- my parents have a similar dynamic, almost totally opposite personalities but so alike in so many ways.

    My mom's an ESFJ 2-- she's almost a textbook example of both. My dad's more confusing, but I think INTJ, probably 5 on the enneagram. They're the worst combination of personalities but have just enough deep similarities to make a sensible relationship. It's mainly in how regular they both are. They're both slaves to routine, they like to do the same things every day, they both tend not to like change or things that are different. I can't remember ever seeing them as people who loved each other, it was always like a business relationship. That was one thing I identified with a lot in the INFP descriptions, how you feel from a different planet as a kid because you don't see any reflection of your feelings in your parents.

    But it's just frustrating now-- all my 3 siblings are out of the home now so they have no justification for staying together. They both come from the old-southern society mindset where a divorce is some kind of failure. It's crazy to me that two people could stay married & not sleep in the same bed for, i don't know, 12, 13 years, maybe longer. & I'm certain neither of them has had an affair so that means neither of them has had sex in that long. That shit is crazy to me... I've always wondered where I came from sex-drive-wise since mine's always been high while neither of them seem to care much about it.

    But more than anything it's just depressing, i read accounts of couples who are in their 60s & 70s or even 80s who are still in love, who still have physical affection & get a sense of meaning from each other's company. It's so pitiful to watch two people miss out on life because they're just too stubborn to change.
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    I dunno. I guess there's stuff like my dad liking chocolate, but passionately disliking anything with chocolate chips (even if they're melted...). Hating onions and garlic, but loving any food that my mother covertly snuck those ingredients into.

    My mum will sometimes insist vehemently that something is a fact and act like it would be crazy for anyone else to think otherwise. Then if she is proven wrong, she backs down right away (although not a moment before) and jokes about it. Awhile ago I was driving and she insisted I had passed the town that we were shooting for. I told her that I was pretty sure that a different town came first and we weren't there yet and even showed her on the map, but she wouldn't believe me right away. I offered to let her drive if she wasn't sure that I was right (not snarkily) and she told me I didn't have to get testy about it and acted like I had a big problem. Then when she realized that she had read the map wrong and we were in fact just pulling into that town, then she said, "Well! Who moved Stony Plain?!" and started laughing.

    Not too many ridiculous things though. My folks are interesting people and I admire them.

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