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  • Desirable to me (based solely on being an INTJ)

    9 40.91%
  • Desirable to others (based solely on being an INTJ)

    3 13.64%
  • Personality type doesn't matter, it's how they behave

    16 72.73%
  • Desirable to no one

    0 0%
  • Etc

    6 27.27%
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    I dont find them attractive. Ofc they can look good, but theres more to being attractive than just looks.

    Not saying that it would be impossible to find one that im attracted to, but generally im not just into TJs.
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    Some INTJ's are very, very attractive to me.. and I am certain that the INTJ box isn't enough alone, to prevent romantic attention. INTJ's (em, just like any other type) can still vary tremendously in behaviors. Maturity, (especially fi development), overall health, degree of introversion, desire to understand others, background, and ofcourse, degree of god complex, heh.

    No way, I disagree it's type related. In the last year I've seen my INTP! brother get more pussy than most ISTP's. Just sayen.
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    I find any man who is disciplined, motivated, intelligent, with integrity and ability to make things happen, incredibly attractive.

    This may sound like the stereotypical INTJ, but not from what I have seen.

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    Well now hmm...
    It's too bold a statement to make for my part. I'd say certain INTJ's are desirable..to me...for my own reasons.
    E.g i find @Nicodemus very desirable in a frienship sense, he amuses me greatly, and i enjoy ventNicotime.
    I can only think of two INTJ's irl that i know/have known.
    One i couldn't stand and the other i'm currently slightly besotted with, although this may change.
    So yah, as with almost everything imo, depends on the individual.
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    INTJs who have a healthy confidence (read: not arrogance) don't seem to have a problem dating and making friends. This confidence includes making themselves a bit vulnerable by expressing interest in others. It means having a genuine interest in others to begin with.

    My INTJ cousin, despite being a prototypical robotic INTJ, has never had a problem with relationships. Well, the only people he turns off with his demeanor is extended family, but he always had a girlfriend in HS though and always had a clique of male & female friends.

    I've briefly dated a few INTJs here & there who were the less well-adjusted kinds, and what makes these kind undesirable is when they have a chip on their shoulder (which often comes off as arrogance) and when they get really passive and unable to pursue a friendship or display their interest in other people (or maybe not unable, but unwilling?). I would never have thought these guys were interested in ME; I would have thought the initial mutual interest had simply fizzled out, except months later I get a random email or run into them and they bashfully take a stab at reconnecting and tell me how much they were into me. Well, too little, too late...

    I think their other big obstacle is letting people know that they like them, and not inadvertently coming off as cold and disinterested. People often desire those who like them, who admire them, who find them interesting. Frankly, I have a similar problem sometimes, and while I can empathise, two people who are like this rarely connect.
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    Heck yeah. I'm still recovering from a particularly enchanting intj lass who served me at a now closed sushi bar.

    Eyes as sparkleshakers.

    Unfortunately, they had to close for whatever reason directly following the disaster in Japan.

    Probably has little to do with her type.

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    People like me and I'm an INFP.

    I hope this helps, but I know it won't! :>

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    Quote Originally Posted by Speed Gavroche View Post
    INTJs are sex bomb!

    Agh. Really?

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    To clarify the correct answer for me would be "More desirable than the average to me (based solely on being an INTJ)"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ginkgo View Post
    Agh. Really?
    No!
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