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  • Desirable to me (based solely on being an INTJ)

    9 40.91%
  • Desirable to others (based solely on being an INTJ)

    3 13.64%
  • Personality type doesn't matter, it's how they behave

    16 72.73%
  • Desirable to no one

    0 0%
  • Etc

    6 27.27%
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  1. #11
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    Hmm the NTJs I know are in their mid-20s and they can be pretty sweet in their own way. In some cases, it can take time to get to know them but I haven't really had that problem. I'm sure they'll grow to be utterly nice people.

    I don't know whether it's their NTJ traits that make them desirable or whether they are desirable because of those traits..hence the vote.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Metamorphosis View Post
    I partially disagree. It doesn't take an unusual person to like us. You could say that it takes someone extraordinary to really understand us, but I would venture a guess that that is how most people feel. There are a ton of INTJs out there and there are a ton of people that they can end up with. Also, there are INTJs that have devoted a significant portion of there energy to becoming good socially and they are very successful with women. INTJs have a lot of traits that are traditionally considered attractive and they are perfectly capable of getting quantity as well as quality.
    i don't mean unusual in having some outstanding ability or characteristic. I mean that we might meet 20-30 people, and only seem truly appealing to one. What distinguishes that one person? I could speculate, but the point is there is only one, or more broadly, a very small subset of the people we meet, UNLESS we are putting on some kind of front to appeal to more people. To me, this is dishonest and does no favors for us or them. It all works out, though, since most of us are happy having just a few close friends rather than many casual acquaintances, and one SO at a time is more than enough.
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    He's using it as an excuse for his inability to attract a mate. Maybe if he didn't think so negatively of himself, he'd have more luck getting laid.

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    INTJs are sex bomb!

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    Well INTJ's have this air of mystery to them that I love. However I normally find them to have traits that are just totally repulsive that I would never be able to deal with in a mate. I dated one exactly one time and he was a dumb one. So they should be smart of course, because there is nothing worse than a thick, fake, cocky intellectual. I find it easier to get along with ISTJ's quicker but I imagine that because INTJ is the most unreadable type for me, I would possibly find a (good) one more and more desirable as time went on, and that is the best kind of desirable. Did I mention that I normally find them intimidating?
    Desirable qualities of the INTJ: Charming, knowledgeable, intense, confident, thoughtful, mysterious- I normally find their expression and demeanor handsome
    Undesirable qualities: Pouty when they don't get their way, cocky, uncaring, controlling, uptight, image-conscious (in the academic realm) and aloof.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kasper View Post
    ENFPs are batty for them. Get's one of them and he won't have to worry about 'getting to touch her' she'll jump him!
    It's like you know us or something.

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    Some of the older INTJs with high intuition are...so...tasty! Prior to developing Se to some degree, particularly if relatively high Te, they're fine as friends but that's it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saturned View Post
    Anyways, the point of my ramble is that with INTJs, I think that they are a type that is like a fine wine... they need to age a bit and when they do, they do it well.
    I agree with this sentiment. I really struggled with finding a partner for a long time. I dated a few times but nothing serious until my mid-twenties. I didn't know my mbti type at the time but I was socially awkward and very immature. Once I had got a little older and wiser I really started to do well, and internet dating was a real game changer

    I think in general that young INTJs do not possess the characteristics that women would find attractive. I would expect them (if they're anything like me) to be rather weak, spotty, not fashionable and lacking charm and social skills. Once they get a little older they learn to market themselves better, improve their listening skills (tolerance), perhaps start working out a little and tone down their arrogance. We will hopefully come across a little more modest and I suppose that combined with a decent intellect could be quite attractive. A mature INTJ would also likely to be doing well in their career, earning a good salary, and according to the ladder theory, that would prove irresistibly attractive, especially to women... (just kidding, but it can't do any harm).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenaphor View Post
    Some of the older INTJs with high intuition are...so...tasty! Prior to developing Se to some degree, particularly if relatively high Te, they're fine as friends but that's it.
    Oh-ohh, and some INTJ wimminz are... so... dang... tasty too!!

    But then they're like "why didn't you put this random stuff away Kasper" and "why don't you have any life goals Kasper" and "no Kasper, I don't want to just 'wing it'" and I'm all

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyJaye View Post
    It's like you know us or something.

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