I'd rather feel like someone hates me than that someone feels pity for me.
But, pragmatically speaking, what if the person that hates me is violent and wants me dead?
In this case I'd rather have him feeling pity for me. It's not like I would care that much about his opinion.
A man builds. A parasite asks 'Where is my share?'
A man creates. A parasite says, 'What will the neighbors think?'
A man invents. A parasite says, 'Watch out, or you might tread on the toes of God... '