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    I've had to make this decision before, I went with hated. I just know it in my bones that it's when people percieve you as weak is when they'll line up to kick you.

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    You definitly need more socialism in Predator village
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    You definitly need more socialism in Predator village
    Shh, I'm in an American red state, which means that I can't say that word out loud. Anyway, I don't think a political system would help with my defensive mechanism. And also.. if you're hated, you can still be a magnificent bastard.

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    I really wouldnt rather either but then I know I'm not liable to be able to influence what others think about me, in reality they probably seldom do, and try not to care too much about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qlip View Post
    Shh, I'm in an American red state, which means that I can't say that word out loud. Anyway, I don't think a political system would help with my defensive mechanism. And also.. if you're hated, you can still be a magnificent bastard.
    yeah thats sadly true
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eckhart View Post
    I think it depends on the context and on the people who are hating or pitying.

    When people who I don't have to do with or who have totally different views than me hate me, I don't care a lot, it would make me probably just not think highly about them either. When people who are close to me or who share similar views and aims as me, it would bother me if they hate me of course, because it wouldn't match how I think about them.

    If people respect me and don't pity me for the person I am but rather for a difficult situation I find myself in, then this is just some kind of emphathy and just shows me that they care about and understand me. But if they pity me for who I am, then this shows something condescending, a lack of respect for my person and something I would take personally and would find rude.
    This sums up my thoughts. I definitely don't see pitying someone as not having respect for them or seeing them as weak, and so I would not be insulted to receive it. It's simply a compassionate feeling: "Pity: 1. sympathetic or kindly sorrow evoked by the suffering, distress, or misfortune of another, often leading one to give relief or aid or to show mercy".
    If accompanied by contemptuousness, though, then no, I don't want it. I'd rather be hated then.
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    Easy call. Hated.

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    Hated? why would this even be a choice. Pity, while embarrassing, has some value but hate (unless it is offset via a polarization strategy i.e. gain fear/emotional distortion of logic of an enemy or cause of admiration of another party (the hater's enemy).

    Hate ( in a vacuum as the poll suggests) is simply an encumbrance. For example in the not uncommon for someone to ask for pity, when does someone ever ask for hatred?

    Hate my be a likely side effect of a bold or tactful move...but its illogical for it to be sole aim.
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    Hated.

    Being pitied might spark feelings of hatred.

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    Who actually wants to be pitied?
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