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    I've been reading a lot how sfp are nice... or kind. Whatever it is. Anyway... I've decided to be a little more mean to people a little more frequently and would like some tips.

    So, my question is... how can I include a little more meanness in my day?

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    That wasn't particularly mean, it's just lessons on how to stand your ground.

    if Wolfy truly wants to be mean, why won't you teach him?
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    I go through a lot of trouble to be nice to people, but if you must:

    - what are you trying to get? being mean tends to involve getting something that you want. so know what you are trying to extort from the other party so you can base your behavior around that. (this in itself, minus the extortion bit, is not being mean, must be combined with other steps). alternatively, you don't want anything except the intangibles of cutting the other person down.
    - don't look for mutual benefit, rather, come up with unfair solutions. obviously, you want to win.
    - be prejudicial and accusatory.
    - be unbalanced.

    useful on some occasions, perhaps, but why be mean when you can be directing? you can be nice and have a firm hand guiding things along. being mean is machismo - for show, rather than to get anything done (or if you are an unbalanced person).

    sometimes it's good to put on a show, just don't be a show-off.
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    Want to be mean? Find anything that stands out about someone (their height, weight, hair color, skin color, accent), especially if it's "out group" or really stands out and insult them. Better yet, joke about it loudly. The joke doesn't have to be particularly funny. Complain about everything as if the people around you work for you. Nothing is ever good enough. Cut people off when they try to speak. Laugh when they make mistakes, especially if it includes a painful injury.

    I remember reading an article in 'The Soup' one of the most self-conscious emotionally mastubatory journals around (I LOVE IT) and there was an excerpt in there about how someone's stepmother drove to the diner and ate a piece of pie while on the way to take her stepdaughter to the hospital to get her broken leg treated. The stepdaughter had to wait in the car with the freshly broken leg while her step mom went inside to eat the pie. Now, that's not just mean, that's um...abusive?

    But you get the picture. Being mean is not a lack of 'being nice' it is a cruel, spiteful, small minded act that starts with the intent to hurt someone directly or indirectly enjoy someone's pain.

    So go ahead. Be a bastard Wolfy! I don't think you have it in you!
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    it seems like being "not nice" is mean enough for some people. i'm actively mean to people who are already obnoxious or cheated me out in some way. in which case, it's easier to just take a shortcut and threaten them and in the rare case, hurt them. you're not really being mean here either. it's just "just".

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    If your wife asks if she looks fat in her dress, say "Yes".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenaphor View Post
    If your wife asks if she looks fat in her dress, say "Yes".
    Psssh. I expected more from an ENTJ!

    "If your wife asks if she looks fat in her dress, say"

    a) When the hell do you not look fat, you whale??
    b) Roll your eyes and leave the room in disgust
    c) Start laughing and throw some M&M's at her
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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Psssh. I expected more from an ENTJ!

    "If your wife asks if she looks fat in her dress, say"

    a) When the hell do you not look fat, you whale??
    b) Roll your eyes and leave the room in disgust
    c) Start laughing and throw some M&M's at her
    I think I might take it as a kindness, if someone threw M&Ms at me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Psssh. I expected more from an ENTJ!

    "If your wife asks if she looks fat in her dress, say"

    a) When the hell do you not look fat, you whale??
    b) Roll your eyes and leave the room in disgust
    c) Start laughing and throw some M&M's at her
    I'll try to do better.

    "FAT? Fat's not the word! Gain anymore weight and I'll have to expand the doorway. We need a new bed because the bottom of your side of the mattress is touching the ground. Our children are starving because you eat most of the food. Lose some goddamn weight!"

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