And in writing for myself, I find I grow and develop.
At first I worried about the lack of response, and tried to organise an active listening group here on Central, but to my surprise everyone found this to be a foreign concept.
So actively listening to others is not something we practise here.
So it seems to me that the main reason most of us come here is to belong, we want to see we are the same as others, different of course, but the same. In other words, we want to conform.
We don't want to grow as individuals, we want to be normal and belong to a normal group.
In other words, if we wish to individuate, we need to swim against the current on Central. And providing we don't drown, we become stronger.