I have found that I am immensely popular with guys, but that women find me sort of vanilla. Women act like they think I am generally nice or pleasant to be around, but they never seem to want to become closer friends.
Meanwhile, I get no end of guys who just seem to love me and think I'm amazing. This would work great if I were single, but I am married and it doesn't really work for me to have a lot of guy friends and no women friends. I really try to tone down the flirting thing, so I don't think I'm being that flirty with guys, just friendly.
Part of it might be that I'm a little tense around women and relaxed around guys.
So as an INFJ female, any advice on how to make more women friends and fewer guy friends?